My best friend is moving and i dont know what to do!!! read on.....?

Question

HMK... my best friend, kayla, is moving only three cities away, but my problem is that she gives me all of my confidence and craziness. and shes moving. im crushed and totally lost. if she moves, all of the things i have worked os hard to do will go down the drain. the only reason everybody thinks im sooooooooo cute and cool is because she has them convinced. but im afraid if she moves then they wont be convinced anymore. and she can chose to move or not. shes the only one in her family moving. her brother lives with her dad and stepmom. she lives with her mom and stepdad. her stepdad gets drunk and grounds her for no reason. NOT KIDDING!!! BEEN THERE!!! so that is why she is moving. all by herself she chose to move to her dads. her brother is moving to her moms. but when she moves, she wont go to my school! please help. i dont know what to do!!!

what i didnt mention is that in 3rd -6th grade i had the best friend that you could ever have. she moved suddenly. her mom didnt let her talk to me until right before she moved. i missed the call. she was great. but now that i have another great best friend (who could never replace bailee by the way) i dont want God to take HER away too. i feel as if i will never have a best friend that will stay.

plus the only reason i feel that no one will like me is because i just started high school this year and this has happened to my other friend. no she has only one friend. me.

i know im being selfish. but i just cant lose another great friend. i dont think i can handle it again. i just dont.

and i dont mean she "convinced them" like i said. but more like she showed them how cool i was. because they didnt want to see. she "opened their eyes" i guess.

please give em straight forward answers. i need htem. i only have three weeks to enjoy her living so close. i think i want to throw her a party. i know its a bit much but everyone is soooooo devastated tha she is leaving. so please hurry and tell me what i should do.

Answer 1

wow i have no idea how hard this must be on you.
heres what i think you should do. send her an e-mail.
tell her why you dont want her to move. but tell her that you will be okay with it.
then ask her to help you make a new school best friend. NOT TO REPLACE HER!!!!! do not ever replace your best friends. not a good idea!
anyway.
then tell her that you will miss her a lot.
then like you said, throw her a surprise going away party.
she might love it. i know i would.
make her promise to call everyday. and make her promise to visit you and you will visit her.
i mean shes only moving three cities away. its not like shes moving to hawaii or europe.
as for school, like i said, find a new school best friend. who knows one of your plain regular friends might just keep you occupied at school. but like i also said, NEVER REPLACE HER! bad, bad, bad idea. dont always talk about sally ann your new best friend. make sure not to say stuff like sally ann said the funniest thing the other day. or sally ann said that the reason the chicken crossed the road is so that it can get away from the KFC dude.
BAD IDEA!!!

anyway, i hope i helped a little.

luv,
me

P.S. what did new york say?

Answer 2

Your friend has to do what is best and healthy for her to do given her current situation. Living with a step parent who treats you unfairly can damage you as a person and bring your self-esteem down. Its hard to let go of those you care about even harder when you are using that person as a crutch to bring your self up which is a heavy burden for your friend to carry. Try to be as supportive as you can while she makes this transition and up roots her life. I know it seems like the end of the world now but life does go on and it will get easier. My entire family just moved to Tennessee and left me here in Florida to make it on my own. I know what it feels like to have your world rocked and changed . It is hard unbelievably hard but each day that passes it gets a tiny bit easier. And believe in your self . You are the fantastic person that you are not because of what your friend thinks of you or gets others to think of you but because that is your personality. Be your self and don't conform your self to what some silly kids in high school think of you. Trust me I have been out of school since 2000 and the things that seemed life shattering then are barely blinks on my radar. Feel better . This to shall pass

Answer 3

I went through the same thing (sort of...in a way). The best thing to do is not beat yourself up over it. Tell yourself you'll still get to see her, and nothing con stop you two from being best friends. Try to make new friends, and try as hard as you can to keep your confidence. If yo uhave some other 'good' friends, stay with them during school, you might find some of your confidence (and cuteness) still remains inside; even though you'r BFF isn't there anymore. If it does, try bringing more of it out, you're got nothing to hide if you were crazy while your friend was still there....why hide it now??? Good Luck!!! :)

Answer 4

it sounds like you have a severe self-esteem problem if you think that by this girl leaving, everyone will suddenly hate you. it's probably a good thing that she's leaving so you can work on that. of course it's very hard when your best friend moves away, we've all been through it, but you'll find new best friends and hopefully learn to be confident on your own.

Answer 5

be who the **** you are living a false little life always fails in the end so just don't and as a general thing people don't just belive whatever they're told they probably really don think you're pretty cool other wise they'd see right through it this isn't like that drwn together episode and people aren't really that stupid you'll just have to move on you sound yound so just adapt and work through it oh and stay away from skanks if you think it's bad now think of where you'll end up in ten years if you start hanging around skanks

Answer 6

Hang out with her as much as possible. Three citties isn't that far so she can visit or you could go see her on weekends. She obviously feels she needs to get away so she probably needs it. Just use all the extra time you have with her left and have as much fun as possible before you start to see her less often.

Answer 7

i think that if you had to have her to convince people that you're cool, then you aren't very independent, since you always needed her. but i kinda know how you feel, because she seems like my best friend. i think that you should visit her a lot. maybe tell her that you really miss her, and someday she might move back. i also think that you should make new friends and maybe try to find someone like her. sorry if i don't help that much.

good luck!

-amanda

Answer 8

It maybe best that she does move because you have to work on your own self esteem you have to believe in yourself and know that your cute remember there is someone out there for everyone and if they don't except you for who you are then you dint need them as friends

Answer 9

E-mail her and get more advice or give the other kids her e-mail and she'll talk her way through them convincing your a great person even if shes gone! good luck and keep in touch with her!

Answer 10

wow! I can't imagine how bad it hurts... but remmeber you want what is best for her I meen if her dad is getting drunl every night and grounding her that aon't he best for her. and if your friendship really is speacial and ya'll are real friends you'll still hang out. I meen just because shes moving don't meen you have to forget her. cheer up it'll be ok. and if your really heart broken take it to God. :)