why doesn't she care about how i feel???

Question

i've been friends with this guy for a really long time now. we are sooooo incredibly close. its gr8. of course the slight downside is that i like him a lot (but its rare that u ever hear about a situation where one doesn't like the other so stay with me on this). the really BIG downside is that once my best friend met him, she fell madly in love with him and has been trying to get him away from me for almost 2 months. yes, she knows that i like him too. the only upside in this situation is that i feel confident knowing that its been 2 months and he still hasn't asked her out. if she really managed to get him to like her, he would've asked her out by now, right? but anyhow, my real issue isn't even the guy itself. its the fact that my "friend" doesn't seem to care in the slightest about the way i feel for this guy and is just going out there trying to get what she wants. she never would've met him in the first place if it hadn't been for me!! is that really fair???

Answer 1

It's not about being fair. If this is something that she's done before, she's not a friend. If this is something new, talk to her about it. Either there's something really there and she's not trying to hurt you, or she's a horrible person that shouldn't be in your life. At the end of the day though, what's more important? In 5 years from now, are you going to want her as a friend or him as a mate and which one is most likely to be there in 5 years?

Answer 2

I dont even know how you are still friends with a girl like that, i think you are better off without her. Cuz lets face it, even if you end up dating this guy, she will still look for a way to break you guys up. She does not respect you as a person or a friend, so why waste your time with her. If you keep her around, she's gonna ruin many more chances for you in the future. You are lucky this guy hasnt paid any attention to her, but guess what? Another will someday or sometime soon. And it may be someone you are dating or in love with, and he might end up finding her more attractive. And my guess is, she will not say no if your future boyfriend or your loved ones ask her out. I use to have a friend like that. We've been friends since we were like 5 yrs old which is almost 20 yrs ago. Guess what she slept with every single guy i ever loved or cared about except for one who rejected her. She is currently dating my ex boyfriend who i dated for 4 yrs. One last thing tell this guy how you feel about him, and see how things goes from there instead of been happy that he hasnt gone out with your friend. If you waste more time, he might end up falling for her, and then you will be the 3rd wheel in their relationship.

Answer 3

I quote, "Life isn't fair." Though I understand exactly what you mean. Real friends wouldn't do that. Talk to her about it. Talk to him about it. Communication is one of the key factors in any relationship, friendship or otherwise.

Answer 4

if she knows you like him then she wouldnt take him if she was a friend. friends would back off since you liked him first. its a rule in our unwritten girls code of conduct in our school. if a friend is going after a guy, no interfering or stealing of the guy allowed. does she know that? i dont think she does. ask her whay she is doing this? well, let me know what happens.

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Answer 5

hmmm. doesn't sound much like a friend to me. If she is truely your friend she would respect you enough not to go after him. and if he falls for what she is doing then you are better off without both of them....good luck.

Answer 6

She's inconsiderate of your feelings and she's not a REAL friend. Find some new friends.

Answer 7

What a witch. Tell her to back off your man!

Answer 8

Sounds fair to me.
He's just your friend.
If you wanted more than that you should have made it known to him.