Help My husband and I just had twins (4days old) on our way home from the hospital he got a call on his cell phone which I never even touch he has his and I have mine,anyways he told the person I am driving let me call you back or you call me back,the caller then asked where he was and he sounded upset saying don't worry about where I am,I asked who in the world was that?he said it was one of his male friends I then told him I knew it was a womans voice so after we got the babies in the house and got settled he said it was his ex wife which I knew already I asked why he felt the need to lie to me and he said because he didnt want me to get upset since I just had not one but two babies.My question is my Husbands never lied to me before now so why would he try to hide the fact that it was his ex on the phone?I am trying not to think the worst but i think my husband is about to get divorce papers.
2006-11-27 10:04:43 · 10 answers · asked by CaliMa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have a child together and usually when she calls it is because she is up tp no good or trying to cause problems or about extra money even after shes gotten child support for the child as well as extras its always something with her.
2006-11-27 16:43:33 · update #1
Arthur oh yes they do I have always told my Husband in the 10 yrs we have been married the minute I feel that i cannot trust him or when it comes down to us having to lie to one another then our relationship is over because the trust is gone,I am not jealous I am just shocked that he would tell such a simple lie.
2006-11-27 16:48:51 · update #2
Calm down, before you start to imagine the worst, talk to your husband. You didn't say how long you have been married to him or how long he was previously married. Did he have any children with his previous wife? If so, perhaps the call was in reference to the children. If they had no kids together, then I would wonder why they are still keeping in touch.
People who have "nothing to hide", don't try to "hide" anything. There would be no reason for him to not talk to her in front of you. Do you get jealous or upset when he has anything to do with her? If so, then maybe that's why he acted like that.
A marriage should be based on mutual love and respect. You should be able to "trust" your husband, if you don't then something is lacking.
You just gave birth, I'm sure you're hormones have a lot to do with how you're feeling. Talk to your husband, explain how you feel. You may be getting all upset for no reason. You won't know unless you ask him. Good luck.
2006-11-27 10:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People dont serve divorce papers over 1 little lie unless theres more here than youre telling us. Maybe the guy is really telling the truth and was just keeping you from getting upset especially just after having twins. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Anyways you have more to worry about than your husband right now. Besides youre going to need him real soon so Id think twice about getting rid of him right now. Congrats on the twins and good luck
2006-11-27 10:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i guess you will know the answer to your own question if he gets the papers....
congratulations on the new baby's!!! good luck!
hope you are feeling okay. what a bad time for you to be doubting your marriage when you just had babies......
well anyway, why does he still talk to his ex? and why couldn't he just tell her that he is driving his wife and new baby's home from the hospital? and why would he lie? i don't know him, so i am not sure why he would do these things..... all i do know is that my husband and i would be going through WWIII if he didn't give me a better excuse then because he didn't want me to get upset.... cuz now i just got ripped-sh!t...... well anyway, maybe you should get some better answers, or when you can drive maybe it should be to the marriage counselor.
2006-11-27 10:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have thought that, with the overwhelming emotions you were probably feeling what with bringing your twins home for the first time, you didn't need the added stress of his ex-wife calling just then. It may have been misguided on his part, but he probably thought he was helping you. No divorce papers yet; it sounds like he didn't really want to talk to her anyway.
2006-11-27 10:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are talking...take a deep breath and calm down. He just probably didn't want to accept you. My hubbie's ex always asks where he is, his kids do too. It is a bad habit some exes seem to have. My hubbie answers more or less the way yours did. Have a sit down with your man and explain how you feel. Don't jump the gun...I don't think he did it on purpose, afterall, you just had twins!!!!
2006-11-27 10:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by pirulee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was better that he confessed inside of the house rather than in a car with you and the babies. When people get mad, they don't care where they're at, they'll start a fight and all reasons of sanity are known to go flying out of the window.
2006-11-27 10:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe it was honestly because he didnt want to upset you after you just had the babies. Does she call all the time?? Do they have kids together??? And if not wy is she calling him?? Thats the answers i want.
2006-11-27 10:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to ask him..None of us can answer that for you..He is the only one that knows...Maybe you just think he has never lied before...Keep you eyes open and talk to him...If you don't get the answers you want talk to her...But I believe I would get settled a bit first.............
2006-11-27 10:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he knows what's good for him, he better not divorce you, unless he wants to pay 20% of his income for each of those twins!
2006-11-27 15:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by wifey996 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. if he cheated on you I hope that he lied. It's selfish to tell the truth. Believe me, I could tell you stories
2006-11-27 10:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋