I got my girlfriend pregnant. what do I do (read details please)?

Question

Im sooooo regretting it, im only 17. im really scared and dont know what to do. omg please help me.

I swear i will love the child, but im just really scared right now. shes 5 months pregnant.

Answer 1

Holy Cow! A guy who is taking part of the blame! WOW!
You go!
Here is what you have to do, You made your bed, Now sleep in it! Good Luck to you and yours!

Answer 2

Congratlations, looks like your going to be a dad, unless you an your girlfriend have decided otherwise. It is very normal to be scared, even when older then 17, 17 is younge but that doesn't mean you will be a bad father, you will just grow with your child. It will be hard thats for sure, I know as I was only 17 when my son was born, I regretted it until I saw him, now I don't regret anything as I can see it was ment to happen as every obstical but in your path is for a reason and you need to learn from it or it will happen again, and again until you have learnt the lesson. Its normally not a simple lesson like using protecton, but a huge life lesson.

Look at everything what in your life is going on? apart from your girlfriend been pregnant, what would been a father teach you? My lesson was I was heading down the wrong path into a lot of trouble but my son came along and saved me as I had to think about somebody else. I couldn't see it at the time but now 4 years later I can look back and see the mistakes I was making.

Having a child can be a wonderful thing but you need to look at it in a positive light, a baby brings alot of joy and love, you need to decide if your going to take whats given to you and use it for a positive reason, or run away and deal with it later when your child comes to you and asks why you didn't stick around.

This is your fault as much as your girlfriends so you need to share the responcibility. It will be putting your needs second and the baby's first, you will still be able to succeed in whatever you do but its up to you to continue with your dreams and make you proud of yourself. Babys grow very quickly, think about the future and be positive, its not something you planned but it has happened so take it in your stride and be the best fater you can be, when your 21 you will have a 4 year old, Not what you wanted but its not a bad thing unless you make it a bad thing.

I recommend you be positive and enjoy what this little person has to give you, you will regret it in the future if you dont. I wish you all the very best and be positive its not the babys fault so don't blame the baby, don't blame yourself or your girlfriend as it won't change the fact your going to be a dad. It can't be helped now as it has already happened. Just enjoy what it brings and keep up with school so you can get the job you always wanted and a better pay to support your baby. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well first off CONGRATS. You and your girlfriend should have a talk about what you guys intend to do before the baby gets here. You need to know each others goals so you two can work with each other to make sure your goals are fulfilled. A baby is a blessing and a lot of people look at them like they're a curse especially teenage parents. If you two work together anything is possible. And don't regret it, its done and there nothing that you can do but deal with the blessing that God chose to give you and your girlfriend. Wish you luck!

Answer 4

Kudos to you for stepping up. You're both 50% responsible for this now. Talk with her, be open, support each other.

Don't freak out - lots of young people get through tough issues like this and you can do it, too.

Tell your parents. They'll probably be upset at first, but after a while, they will come to terms with what has happened and (hopefully) will begin to support you emotionally and help you both through this ordeal.

Keep your chin up and give your GF a big hug - let her know that you're there for her!

Don't worry about marriage... If you're not ready for marriage, that's okay. Marriage is an incredible strain on a relationship and so is a baby... Putting the strain of both of those into one year and it could be very harmful to your relationship.

Keep communicating. Don't hold back - tell her your fears and hope that she'll do the same.

If you decide to keep the baby, in time, you will start to get excited. Go to the mall with her and look at baby stuff. That helped my BF and I come to terms with expecting our baby (now 6 months old).

Feel free to email me if you two need support or have questions!

Answer 5

It will be ruff for awhile,but with the help of both parents you will get through this. Your not the first and you won't be the last with this.
If you are in school you both will need to stay there and get your education. You need to be there for her and the baby. Although you made a mistake this baby will bring a lot of joy into your life if you and your girlfriend decide to keep it.
You don't necessarily have to put the baby up for adoption either,you and your girlfriend (with mutual agreement) can allow one of the new grandparents to be to take guardianship of the baby if necessary and as long as necessary. A lawyer or paralegal can draw up the papers (depending on your state),you may only have to use some legal software to draw the papers up yourself and have them notarized.
Best of luck and hope you have a healthy baby.

Answer 6

You should sit down and talk to her and see what she wants to do. If she wants to keep the baby there is nothing you can do about it because it's basically her choice and you have no say in it if she makes up her mind. If she keeps the baby the best thing you can do is being there for her and don't let her down. It's okay to be scared but don't make her feel like **** she already feels bad about it don't say anything your going to regret later because that can stay with her for a long time. Just be there for her and the baby

Answer 7

there's no use regretting. be man enough to face your girlfriend and both your families. if both of you want to get married, do it when you're both in the legal age. however, if the girl doesn't want to get married to you, then give her all the support that she needs -- morally and financially.

there's no use feeling afraid. it has been done. perhaps there is a reason for all these. and also, don't worry coz time will just put everything in its proper place. now may be confusing to you and your girlfriend but things will change eventually. this is a challenge you must face together.

try talking to someone who can understand. talk to your girlfriend. she needs you now more than ever.

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Answer 8

well the deed is done. you should have thought about that before you had sex. believe me though things have a way of working out. i was 17 when i got pregnant with my first and my bf (now husband) was 18. it was tough but we managed. it will be a lot and difficult at times but if you're willing to work hard everything will be ok. try to relax. oh and don't be a d*ck to your girlfriend because she's pregnant and you're scared. you were there to make that baby too (just a reminder)

Answer 9

I dont truly imagine she is pregnant despite the indisputable fact that the right thanks to be sure is to bypass to the Dr... & from time to time if u are stressing over something as an party this it would want to reason your era to be a touch late also yet when she isn't this time she needs to envision getting on contraception 1st to stay away from an undesirable being pregnant and 2d to assist adjust her classes... and if she is pregnant inspite of the actuality that there are a selection of ideas if she catches the being pregnant in the early stages if it truly is something that is undesirable immediately...

Answer 10

It's scary but It isn't the end of the world. My brother in law did the same thing and his daughter is now 22years old and he has a happy life. You have to be mature and take responsibility for what has happened. Hiding it won't help. Tell your parents and her parents and they may be able to help you through this. Counselors at school can help too!

Answer 11

Wow, best of luck to you. She is probably just as nervous as you are.....if not even more. You should get a job and help support the baby. Be there for your girlfriend b/c she is going to need all the support she can get. It will be tough but it can be done.