I love my husband dearly but i find myself attracted and feeling for other people. What should I do?

Answer 1

join the club; make "friends" with a lot of people, though you don't want to. put time and energy back into the relationship, even though you don't think that you'd be able to. pray, seek counsel, find a hobby, find something else to get into.

i think what you'll find, as the relationship progresses, or not, is that people with that same mindset as yours will continue to find each other. then you're two people with a lot of guilt and shame attempting to have a healthy relationship which is otherwise a lie and full of denial. it's a bit depressing. you'll always meet someone else who is in that same situation as you're in, wondering why you're in the situation, why you're friends, why you even bother to begin with, and what is it all for. eventually you'll make good on those emotions, and have to suffer the consequences, though you'll get by without having to do so for some time.

being attracted to others, a bit normal, but the feelings may be the sign of deeper issues in the relationship. also keep in mind that the feelings tend to come and go anyway, so whereas you're not feeling him today, perhaps tomorrow you couldn't live without him. perhaps it is a sign that you should be alone, and should try it out single for a while, perhaps it's not, and it's time to do something about the relationship for a change.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with finding other people "attractive", you aren't dead! However, if you consider "acting" on those feelings, that's a whole different matter.

You need to do some serious "soul searching" to figure out what's going on with you. Don't put yourself in a position where you might "give in" to those feelings. Looking "outside" your marriage for any reason is wrong and it never solves anything.

I don't know your age or how long you've been married so it's a little difficult to speculate. But, if you "loved your husband dearly", you wouldn't be "feeling" something for anyone else.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

Everytime you feel that way take those feelings and direct them toward your spouse. Seduce him or put together a special date. Think about all the reasons you love your husband and how if you lost him your heart would be broken. Being attracted to other people is normal but adultery is a choice. Love is also a choice; you may not feel warm and fuzzy about your spouse all the time, but you can choose to love them even at their worst. This is why marriage is called a committment and not a fling. You hang on even when you want to let go. I wish and your husband the best in your marriage.

Answer 4

this already got chosen as a "best answer" once...lets see how it does for you:

being "with" someone doesn't mean that you're not attracted to anyone else...nor do you not talk to anyone of the opposite sex...

it means that you are responsible enough and you care enough about this person not to be "with" anyone else...

i would have to ask my "significant other" if it was o.k. to see other people...

hang out with the guy...have coffee...hell i consider kissing someone else cheating...hanging out with a friend is fine...but don't let it go so far as being "with" someone...

you need to save something special for your man...something that only you two do together...sex, kissing, fondling should all be some of those things...

i used to give my wife baths followed by deep tissue massages...just remember that he should be different from anyone else in some ways...

Answer 5

You are married that means that you are bonded to him as he is to you. That means you have commited yourself to him and are to have only eyes for him as he is to you. Anyways do not put yourself in those mind frames if you had these problems before marriage maybe you should have come to grips with them before you tied the knot just a thought anyways this is known as lust and is the work of evil and evil works in our minds and Satan hates to see couples in love it takes away some of his strength so fight against it spend more time with your husband have more intimate relations and just work on keeping each other happy. God Bless?

Answer 6

It's fine to notice attractive people. It's even OK to check them out. But, for us married folks, it ends there. When we carry things ANY farther, we end up destroying our marriage. Even when married people get away with playing around, we must then live with the knowledge that we betrayed the person we swore to never harm.

Answer 7

There is no magic with marriage that causes everyone else on the planet to become unattractive. It's a matter of personal commitment and respect for your spouse to remain faithful.

Answer 8

Don't we all!!!

Just don't act on it. we fall in and out of love with our husbands all the time, at the moment ur going through the lack of excitment ( i would luv sex but not with my husband) stage.

when i feel like this i go out and flirt get my self worked up and then come home and shag my husband sensless

good luck

Answer 9

Do Nothing! It's normal - just because you're married doesn't mean you're dead!

At some time during a marriage it is normal to be attracted to someone else...we just don't act on our feelings (and we keep them to ourselves)!

Do you want to lose what you've got???

Answer 10

you need to ask yourself how nouch do you really love him? are you really ready for marriage? because if you truly loved him than he should be the only man you desire. if you feel like your going to cheat than just get a divorce. don't hurt him. be honest with him