My husband of 6 years feels it ok for his sons to sit and eat cereal all day.He feels I don't have a right to say you can't eat cereal? They visit every weekend and it's like they don't eat at home because they eat from the time they get to our home to the time they leave. Sometimes they leave and I have to go back to the store. When I confront him about it I'am just strirring up stuff. It's like he doen't care if the childeren in our home can eat when they leave or not. What should I do???????????
2006-11-27 09:24:26 · 12 answers · asked by sunshine919273 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If that is what they like that is fine and should not really hurt them... However why dont you offer to make a great meal for all of them when they come over with a great desert that kids love like brownies or something... Just a suggestion:) You can make sure that they eat and that they eat good..... Hope this helps some!
2006-11-27 09:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the worst thing you have to complain about.
Sure, he could make other food choices.
Big deal. In the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal.
My 8yo daughter is coming over tomorrow and we'll have crab legs. We do this almost every Tuesday night. We might even go out for ice cream or have other sugary sweet desserts. We may even stay up an extra 1/2 later than her normal bedtime.
I'll probably make her waffles in the morning for breakfast, with turkey bacon and scrambled egg whites. So what.
Does he love you and love his kids?
If so, be thankful. So many don't even have that.
You are very fortunate if your biggest complain is a daylong cereal binge.
2006-11-27 17:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Simple the evening before they come take all the cereal and put it out of sight. So when they ask for cereal there is none to be found... Tuna anyone?
you mention it as it was in my family, I take it that you are their step-mother? If so I would just tell your hubby as a step- mother you want his children to be healthy and you don't see why he has a problem with that. And it's ok to stir things up when it's in a child's best interest
If you wish to email me and talk more about it feel free.
2006-11-27 17:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know it is just cereal.. and you are only talking 4 days out of the month .. what is the harm really.. my ex sister in law never brought cereal for her girls all they got was eggs so to them when they were at my house that was like candy..you don't ever know maybe they don't get it at there house.. now you say it is like he don't care if the children in your home can eat when they leave or not.. are you saying that you cant afford the extra the his kids eat..if so may i suggest you buy the large bags of cereal in stead of the boxes they usually cost less and tasted the same.. heck if you can do it with out them seeing you save the empty boxes and put the cereal from the bag into the boxes stick them on the shelf and they wont know the difference
2006-11-27 17:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not mind one bit if I had kids sitting here, happily munching away and keeping their yap occupied with cereal instead of screams and rackets .
Buy them cereal in a bag . WHOLESALE IS CHEAPER. they'll NEVER KNOW IF YOU STICK IT IN A BOX AHEAD OF TIME .
They must like you otherwise they would not come back . Your hubbie is a doll to have that bunch over all the time and be patient . So, try to be understanding. They are kids only for a short time . Later on in life they go their own way . Boy , how I wish I could turn the years back and shove cereal into my kid's mouths . I still see them like they were .God Bless.
2006-11-27 17:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, married for 6 yrs, he has three kids with ex wife that visit every weekend... They come over every weekend and they eat a lot. The best thing you should do is keep buying food. If he complains about the food expense, explain that you are feeding his children and yourselves all weekend too. He should say nothing after that and if he is concerned about the expense, he will stop them from eating so much.
Tyr to get them to visit every other weekend, it sounds like you are about to flip out becasue of stress associated with a blended family. The best of luck to you.
2006-11-27 17:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by ?girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this on the day your husband's sons come over just offer them something besides cereal. Example: hey I'm making chicken with mash potatoes do you guys want some.
2006-11-27 17:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your home too. And it would make no difference what they did there...if it is something that you would prefer not to have to deal with, you and he need to talk about it. Would he be okay with it if the roles were reversed? It isn't WHAT they do, it is that they are doing something you would rather they NOT do. If it is a big deal to you, then say something, If not, then, again it is HIS house too.
In the end, some other woman's kids are a pain anyway you wish to look at it, aren't they?
2006-11-27 17:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he doesn't know what to cook and this is fast and easy for him. try explaining to him how bad all that sugar is for the kids and rotting there teeth and try giving him healthier ideas in food he can feed the kids. and if it has to be cereal stick to some healthy kinds. The kids won't like it but they will get use to it if they realizer theres nothing else for breakfast.
2006-11-27 23:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew he had children when you married him. Kids eat a lot of food. You sound like you resent it. You are not a wicked step mother, are you?
2006-11-27 17:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋