My ex and I have been divorced for 2 years and my 5-year old daughter lives with me. We have joint custody, but I am the primary caregiver and decision maker. I want to move a few states away to be near my serious boyfriend (he is in the military). The problem is, my ex refuses to let me move with our daughter and will not compromise on visitation arrangements (he currently gets her every other weekend).
Has anyone had a similar situation? If I have to go to court, what are the chances that the judge will allow me to move with my daughter?
2006-11-27 09:23:01 · 5 answers · asked by Amanda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your bf is in the military he will proble move many times over the next few years and some of them will be out of the country..does your daughter have a good realionship with her dad.. if so i dont think i would up root her at such a young age.. i know easy for me to say i am not in your shoes.. not back to your question you could consult a lawyer on this and he can give you a more reasonable course of action to take and if it will work and what your chances are .. you may also try to talk to your ex tell him you will give him all of the summer with her as well as any time she out of school for the long term hoildays, spring break, xmas, thankgiving, to make up for the time he will be missing
2006-11-27 09:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he will compromise, if you gave him primary custody, I'd imagine he would have no problem with your moving.
It's not your moving that's the issue, it's taking HIS child (and your, the child belongs to BOTH of you) away from him.
The real question is what has he asked for in order to give this the green light, and why haven't you said yes if you are so in love with this boyfriend.
Why not offer to give him primary custody and you'll travel back EOW to be with your 5 year old daughter?
The most important relationship your daughter will have with a man will be with her father. DO NOT do anything to hinder this relationship.
Studies show that daughters who don't have close relationships with their fathers suffer self-esteem issues, are more promiscuous and more likely to have children out of wedlock.
The best thing you could do for your daughter is to work towards your ex-husband having a deeper, more fufilling relationship with her, in terms of both quality and quantity of time.
Moving her away is probably the worst thing you could do for your daughter.
2006-11-27 09:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you desire emergency finished custody. CPS is unpredictable, and can order you to stay interior the state (i think of). you could report it there or right here (i'm in TX) yet are you asserting you may wait 6 months for residency? you desire information of all he's finished. Subpoena his medical records from the breakdown. Get a replica of the police checklist you filed the day he left them on my own. without information and going basically on your emotions, you will get nowhere with a choose. Why might he deprive a guy of his toddlers based on your hunch once you do no longer basically like the guy besides? you will possibly be able to additionally attempt to barter something perfect to the two one in all you. Forgive X volume of youngster help (returned help, case in point), put in place adequate summer time visitation to start next 365 days and he enables you to spot the youngster's homestead in TX. Then later you ask for supervised visitation if he remains nuts. something tells me he did no longer circulate to the well-being middle and you probably did no longer call the cops. Google parental kidnapping for VA. make certain that's no longer what you're doing once you circulate away. If he does not be attentive to the thank you to stipulate your aunt, you may attempt to grant him mailbox handle to be annoying to locate while he starts off serving you. EDIT: The look after concept is sturdy. Sister, you desire a greater effective activity, or greater effective than one. You needless to say won't be able to anticipate this guy financially.
2016-12-10 17:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by picart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your state and your judge. In general, the trend has been to crack down on moms who want to move, even in cases of financial hardship.
However, the research shows that moveaways are not as bad as some people claim.
2006-11-27 14:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND GET MARRIED, THERES NO JUDGE IN THE WORLD THAT WOULD KEEP YOU FROM GOING TO ANOTHER STATE. BUT THATS NO REASON TO GET MARRIED SO I WOULD JUST GO TO COURT AND GIVE IT A SHOT. I'VE KNOWN PEOPLE IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS AND THE ONLY WAY THE JUDGE LET THEM MOVE IS THEIR CAREER (MAKING MORE MONEY TO SUPPORT YOUR 5 YR. OLD, OR MARRIAGE. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-11-27 09:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋