What are your reasons, be honest unless your husband looks at your answers hehe. Consider this like a survery :) , but I am very curious as to why this would be. Lack of spark, tired, unattracted, hes an *** hole. just say it heheh. and would you say you please yourself a whole lot more than have sex? Im kind of curious as to how many woman are similar to my wife.
2006-11-27 09:20:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Studies have shown that husbands who do more of the work around the house/with the kids get more sex than men who don't because the wives resent their husbands sitting around doing nothing while they're doing everything.
I would say that the #1 reason I hear from women for lack of interest is the men using their wives' bodies as if they were a 3 minute "penalty" box. The guy only wants a 3 minute quickie bec that's all it takes to satisfy him and 99% of all women are NOT interested in 3 minute quickies unless it's just to get the husband to stop bothering you for it. So in other words -- why bother getting undressed for bad sex?
2006-11-27 09:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Karen L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Because he loves you, he will see this as a wonderful loving gift. He will have a marriage with a women he loves and the freedom to have as much sex with as many different women as he wants. Any man would love that freedom and understanding. Contrary to what the others say, you should do this, and you should make it clear that the reason you are doing it is because you know that you both love each other. I do agree that you should have some sex with him even if its only once a month, and the occasional ******* while he watches porn. Giving him some sex as well will heighten the experience of being able to have sex with other women. Lastly, I also recommend you research the term Cuckquean. Some women find it very erotic to watch their husband have sex with other women, some even help him arrange it, organise his dates, dress him up etc. If you get involved in this way it can be something that you do together.
2016-05-23 15:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married. But I can imagine why a women would only bang her husband just a few times a month. All working women get tired sometimes, right. And besides, I'm sure the fellas have their exausted days as well, when they're totally not up for having sex. These days may be the days when the women ARE in the mood. And let's not forget that "time of the month". Men don't go through this, so they expect to have sex everyday.
2006-11-27 09:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by 09 _ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a jerk most of the time which turns me off I have 3 kids and 1 on the way I don't want to have sex with someone that is compulsive about cleaning all the time my kids cannot play when he's around example the house is old and dark there was a peice of paper on the floor it was about the size of a raisin he goes I've been waiting for 3 days for someone to pick that paper up ok why didn't the jerk pick it up hisself I didn't even see it til he pointed it out men are petty I am proof that it only takes 1 time to get pregnant with this pregnancy.
2006-11-27 13:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by fluttergirl2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women marry the wrong guy. I've gone back and visited those guys and seen them working at check out counters 20 years after High School. Women want (and yes this is coming from a guy) a man that is sensitive and caring and listens to them. Strong at times and weak at others. I like to play video games but enjoy 'chick flicks' too. What do these things have to do with sex? Everything! 4 or 5 times per month is plenty if you're having sex with someone that doesn't think like you or do things for you or with you just to please you. Sex should be love making, passionate and sometimes wild. Not the same position and for only 10-15 minutes. When men start loving their wives instead of just having sex with them and think about pleasing them not just themselves then the number of times they make love will be more like everyday. Even if they both work and have kids!
2006-11-27 09:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by URFI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of the answers in your question. Being a mother of 3 sometimes I do go through those spurts. Sometimes I am so tired or have a million other things on my mind or worrying about the kids walking in. And sometimes as a mother you can feel unattractive. When that happens you need to set aside a day just for the two of you. It usually snapps things back into place.
2006-11-27 09:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by bb77blueeyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are u a selfish lover? trigger happy ? won't establish intimacy first? won't make sure she is satisfied as well? any variation to the routine? change the gentleness, roles, roughness? show her kindness and caring throughout the day or just bark out orders like an a**h*** so she feels like sex is just one more "duty"? help with the kids so she can "stop her day" a little early? turn off the TV and just focus on her? any foreplay? kissing? any fulfilling of fantasies? any new lingerie bought for her lately?
Marriage and a healthy sex life is work, dude.For both hubby and wife. So many guys screw it up by assuming too much and working for it too little, and then they blame the wife for having a "low sex drive" when it really is their own fault for not tending to the garden, if you know what I mean.
2006-11-27 13:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is a combination of things. I have a 3 year old, a 21 month old and I'm 6 months pregnant with a 3rd. I'm at home all day with my kids in addition to the kids I babysit each day. Typically I have zero sex drive when I'm pregnant. Even when I'm not pregnant I don't really get turned on much by my husband and he's never satisfied me sexually. So for me sex is a chore and something I've never enjoyed with him. But it's all I have to work with and I've accepted that.
2006-11-27 09:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by october g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I only get around to having sex a few times a year probably... Neither him nor I have a high sex drive... No particular reason, both of us just enjoy doing other things. There might be a medical reason for it, I don't know.
2006-11-27 09:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was surprised to find out that a lot of woman my age (early 40's) do not have sex with their husbands at all. Mostly no desire and hard to find time after a long day at work..
2006-11-27 09:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sally V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋