talking behind someone's back?

Question

i find this utterly disgusting; if I know somebody who can use my help, I help them, I don't go talking behind someone's back especially if I know this individual is a very fragile person. I don't mind talking about somebody who has wronged someone but not about people's personal lives if this would hurt them.

Why do you think people like this so much rather than being discreet and helping someone improve their life?

thanx

Answer 1

Friend - Sadly others enjoy gossiping or have a need to put others down in order to feel good about themselves. They either do not care or are naive about the damage this can cause. GB

Answer 2

"If someone's talking behind your back, you're walking in the right direction"...

Some people are small-minded, cowardly and have no lives of their own, so they have to speculate & gossip about others. If they genuinely care about the person they're discussing, they could approach them & speak directly. So they are either afraid to do so or are just enjoying the gossip & trying to make themselves feel better by delighting in someone else's misfortune.

Just ignore them! Not worth your concern!

Take care!

Answer 3

I think people do this because it makes them feel better. Maybe their lives aren't great and they don't want the other person's life to be any better. They also may want to make it worse by talking behind their back and spreading rumors. I hate it when I hear people doing this. When I hear someone talking behing someone else's back, I want to tell them not to do it. I find it extremely rude.

Answer 4

Some people just have nothing better to do with their lives. I worked as a CNA in three different nursing homes, and it seemed to me that it was worse there than anywhere. People who literally ***** about other peoples lives and problems have nothing better to do. They are so miserable with themselves that all they can do is talk about other people to make themselves feel better. I mean, when you are sixty and wipe old people's butts for a living, wouldn't you want to try and make yourself feel better? It goes for any job, but when you aren't satisfied with yourself, chances are you will bad mouth anyone you are jealous of or anyone who does better than you.

Answer 5

I have noticed over the years that those that are constantly talking about others and how screwed up their lives are have a really screwed up life themselves.
They seem to get some kind of justification out of someone worse off than themselves.
my philosophy has always been;
Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Answer 6

I've noticed that especially for young girls and women, talking about other people is a bonding experience. It unites the group by directly identifying "us" and "them" and reinforcing the group's ideals. Though not usually done out of mailce, gossip is often done with disreguard for it's consequences, because nobody is supposed to find out.

Answer 7

The problem is that we all love a bit gossip and scandal! It's natural to feel relieved that others are capable of screwing up as much as yourself. However, I fully stand by the fact that you should never say anything behind someones back that you wouldn't say to there face!...........I hate you.

Answer 8

to fill the boring void in their own life. I don't talk about people behind there back because what other people do is thier business enless they are douche bags and purposely attract attention to negative things about themselves.

Answer 9

I think it's because of ignorance of other people's feelings and their lives.