whatever....I am sure they will delete this question too..
2006-11-27 09:12:13 · 18 answers · asked by Batman has left the building 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People tell me all the time that..."time is the best of healers"....so how long does it really take...because I am tired of waiting..
2006-11-27 09:13:35 · update #1
When you can't pick up the broken piece to fix it any longer or there is never really good closure...whatever I am tired of rambling tired of talking about it...
2006-11-27 09:19:12 · update #2
i know what you mean...i spent 2 years nearly mourning for my ex husband...i loved him completely and would have gone through anything to be with him...our relationship was very destructive though and he left me in the end...the thing that kept buzzing around my head was how could he lie...he promised that he would never leave me that it was forever...he lied...i would have seen anything through and would have adapted myself to whatever situation and therein lay much of the destruction...for both...we both tried so hard to be what the other wanted that we lost ourselves and each other...people that tell you that time will heal are right...i will always have some of that love for my ex husband but it is a love for what i wanted us to be...not what it was...that love has changed now...thats what time does it changes everything and gradually a new perspective on your life settles in...i know nothing will sound helpful or right at the moment but sometimes these things happen to push us in other areas too and to bring other things to a head...
someone wrote this on reading an account of Virginia Wolfes death...
I am thinking of a woMan who walked
into the waters of a river
with stones in her pockets
thinking of the waters
thinking of the rivers of my life
thinking of the stones
in My pockets
woMen are born
with stones in their pockets
Empty them Empty them
Swim
..................
I know this is geared to women but applies to everyone...empty your stones from your pockets and learn to swim through your life...hope it helps...;0)
2006-11-27 09:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was a point were i felt like that but you know what? Its life you deal with it And even though you feel like crap its gonna be ok.
remeber: Never give up for around the corner, you life might change forever!!
Believe in yourself
Be brave...but it's ok to be afraid sometimes
Study hard
Give lots of kisses
Laugh often
Don't be overly concerned with your weight, it's just a number
Always try to see the glass half full
Meet new people, even if they look different to you
Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless
Take lots of naps..
Be weird whenever you have the chance
Love your friends, no matter who they are
Don't waste food
RELAX
Take an occasional risk
Try to have a little fun each day.
...it's important
Work together as a team
Share a joke with friends
Fall in love with someone..
...and say "I love you" often
Express yourself creatively
Be conscious of your appearance
Always be up for surprises
Love someone with all of your heart
Share with friends
Watch your step
It will get better
There is always someone who loves you more than you know
Exercise to keep fit
Live up to your name
Seize the Moment
Hold on to good friends; they are few and far between
Indulge in the things you truly love
Cherish every Sunday
At the end of the day... PRAY
....... and close your eyes
And smile at least once a day!
2006-11-27 18:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by The REBELution! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, probably most people have. I in fact became a drug user. Instead of dealing with the hurt I got high. Which never made it better. It only destroyed my life. 13 years later when I sobered up, the pain was still there! The best thing you can do is deal with it head on! Feel it and move on! You have a choice to wallow in it or let it go! Why live in the past! The present moment is much better! If you choose not to feel then you are missing out on a lot of good feelings! Life is filled with good and bad and love certainly isn't always easy! But love requires us to be vulnerable! It won't always hurt! Besides you got to go through some bad experiences, it makes you appreciate the good ones even more! Get out and have fun! Let go of the past and move on! Tommorrow is a new day and you can be happy!!
2006-11-27 17:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I don't believe that time heals old wounds. I don't care how much time has past when it comes to being hurt by someone that you truly loved. No matter how much time goes by the hurt that they have caused you will never heal, they have totally turned your world up side down and now you're left to put the pieces back together to the life that they destroyed. Tell me how time is suppose to help that.
2006-11-27 21:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've definitely been there too. I was stuck in a horribly abusive marriage. I tried to shut myself off and not feel. It took 3 years, but I was finally able to say I was going to divorce him.
It was a long hard haul, but you have to sort things out in your head to address the problem and how to take care of it.
Take care, hon.
2006-11-27 17:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as i am concerned time does not heal anything you just have too pull yourself up out of the misery and decide is this how i want too feel from now on it is hard i know i live it everyday i have not seen my children in about ten years but life can and does go on if you choose so keep your chin up dear.
2006-11-27 17:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by pammiesuehappy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.ive been through this lately and im really tired too but what can i do but wait?maybe they are right and time is a healer, believe in faith...........and everything will be just fine
2006-11-27 17:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been? Yes, Time can heal...but you have to let it..if you choose to cling to your misery then Time will do nothing for you.
It's up to you how long to grieve...decide life is too short to waste much of it being upset over what we don't have...and get out there and live it and make it what you want it to be.
It's up to you.
2006-11-27 17:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way about my marriage. I've been hurt by him so long and so bad that I don't want to feel anything anymore, at least concerning him.
I do feel lots of love my from my family and children,so phooey on him.
2006-11-28 05:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is the hurt never goes away you just learn to deal with it,and then when you learn to deal with it you then can go on.the truth is life is a ***** you live then you die and if you are lucky you will find some one to ease the pain of life it's self.
2006-11-27 17:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Glenda J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋