he never came home, acted as if he didnt need me, but now its a different story since he is in jail, he says he was high and let the meth take over his life he's sorry and it wont happen again, i did not even know he was smoking or doing drugs until he got arrested and i have a 2 yr old daughter to thingk of(his) so should i say screw you or be there for him, for her
2006-11-27 09:03:59 · 20 answers · asked by nicole w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell no!! Your first priority is your baby....not him. Tell him he has to go to rehab and if he refuses....walk away. Meth is a very powerful, very dangerous drug and people who use it are often unpredictable and can become aggressive. I was a meth addict for almost 20 years, and I know from experience what meth can do to families...Get out while you can..if he really loves you, he'll get help. Good luck! If you need to talk, my email is ozzyangel@sbcglobal.net
2006-11-27 09:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, people say anything when they are in jail! Granted meth does take over your life. You put the drug above everyone and everything! I was on meth for 13 years. I now have almost three years clean!! The best thing that happened to me was when I was locked up, no one was there to help me! It made me realize just how much damage I had done. A person on drugs has to hit a bottom! Meaning they hit a low! A low so bad that it wakes them up! It causes them to see they have a problem! Meth is a very addictive drug and it takes over your life! But no one can help you until you are ready to help yourselves! My suggestion, let him do his time and then when he gets out see what he does. If he gets some help and you want to stand by him then do so. But if he gets out and goes right back to the dope, you gotta let him go. I know it is hard when you love someone but you got to look out for yourself and your daughter! Until he quits getting high he;s no good for either one of you!
2006-11-27 17:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems tough, but he was never there for you. Was he there for your daughter? Do you want her to be around somebody who knows how to get or make meth? I don't think it would be a very wise decision to go back to him. Think of all the good and bad things he's done. Has he done more to help you than to put pressure on you? Did he say it wouldn't happen again, and if he did, do you trust that he's telling the truth? It's your decision, and I hope you make the right choice.
2006-11-27 17:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Hankers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should bail out now honey cuz it won't change. That is the jail house "I'm so sorry, I'll never do that again" Blues song. I'm shocked you haven't heard it before. Do your child and yourself a favor get out and don't look back. Your child is young enough and if you really look good you will find someone who will treat you and the baby the way you should be treated. Anyone who chooses drugs over their own child won't change much. And especially towards you. Good Luck
2006-11-27 17:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by bje 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be involved with a 12 step program for co-dependents. Once you are emotionally healthy you can then make a decision about whether to continue with this marriage. If he was on drugs he was incapable of being there for anyone but himself. Encourage him to be in a 12 step program too. It's a long hard road for both of you. Remember though he is still your daughter's father and she may be only 2 now but she will grow older and need to form her own opinions about her dad. Don't fill her head with YOUR opinions of him
2006-11-27 17:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dianne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU dont want to be there for him DONT...just dont use your daughter as an excuse to be there for him, because its the daughter that should have been the main reason for him to not be stupid enough to do what he did that got him incarcerated in the first place. I personally wouldnt be there for him...but I am not empathic or sympathic towards asssholes but thats just me. Oh yeah..assholes in jail ALWAYS make promises and apologies and they mean it UNTIL they get out!
2006-11-27 17:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes your husband, why would you desert him? He wasnt there for you becuz he gave you the reason why, its not a very good reason but he will learn his lesson. He is your babys dady, you need to be there for him and stay with him and support him. Talk to him about how you feel. Did you tell him? Tell him that you felt hurt and betrayed and neglected. And tell him that you need him to change.
Be there for him, hes your HUSBAND.
Good LucK!
2006-11-27 17:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would kick him to the curb. Only about 1% of druggies ever get off the stuff when they are out. He most likely will be a bum forever.
2006-11-27 17:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the meth is not going to go away ! Dump him like a truck!
2006-11-27 17:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love him. Did he cheat? If you love him, try to make it work. You have the power since your the sane one. Make Some new rules that he has to abide by, if he fails kick him to the curb.
2006-11-27 17:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋