I have a reasonable good life. I have a great job that I love. I have many friends, I live in a comfortable 4 bedroom home with a two car garage. I'm involved in many activities, I volenteer at my church and with community organizations. I have a strong family with very tight bonds. I love the feeling of helping others and I am currently working with a vocational school helping people pass their GED's. Oh..and I have a great girl friend who is a real hottie. It hasn't been always this good for me, I've been on my own since I was 16, at one time I lived in the back seat of a 1970 Nova for 2 years, I put myself through school (long story). Somewhere, somehow I have this feeling that if everyone knew the real me, if they really knew my deepest secrets...they wouldn't like me. I really have no secrets other than a very abusive childhood that I tell no one about, I feel a deep shame for nothing I did..somehow I feel dirty about this.
your thoughts please
2006-11-27 09:02:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
(No expert here) but I think that since you are such a community leader, it might help you in your positions of trying to help at-risk youth out. You have overcome alot and I think people would really respect you for everything that you've done despite the background that you came from. You could show troubled youth that they still can have a bright future even if they haven't been blessed with the best childhood. Congrats on everything and good luck for your future.
2006-11-27 14:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has things in their past they don't feel good about. From what I've read and learned in my profession as a counselor, abused children can grow up with low self-esteem, despite their successes. Secrets just add to feelings of low self-worth. Sharing the stories appropriately can be healing. But not sharing in a whiny way, in a constructive way. You are a role model. Good job.
2006-11-27 17:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u gotta count on people u trust mainly people whos been there since the time u were on the worse point in ur life and didnt bail. alot of people go through hard times in part of their life it pays off if u keep ur mind right and positive. other people dont get that far they give in to pressure and end up in drugs alcohol etc. etc. so just be glad and thankful things went good after the rain
2006-11-27 17:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who gives a rat's *** what some "experts" thinks? They're usually so off-base anyway it's pathetic. Sounds like you just need to bury the past and enjoy your life.
Thinking about living is not living.
2006-11-27 17:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert so maybe I'm not qualified to answer your question. However, sounds to me like instead of feeling shame for things that were beyond your control, be proud of what you have overcome!
2006-11-27 17:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tell your g/f and get it off your chest, you've done all these other things why not this. And I know it might be harder to tell your family but once you do you'll feel a way stronger connection with them.
2006-11-27 17:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by Nick T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋