Why sre we so subdued,distant and so unconnected that these days you are scared to get caught looking at each?

Question

Other or even just starting a light hearted conversation with another normal person, like for instance on a train on the way home from work it is amazing how distant we have all become what are folk so scared of.The only time we are comfortable talking with a stranger or even asking them for a date is when were drunk or have worked with or known this person for some time.some folk need to get out more and see that there is an amazing world out there go grab it im going to.Enjoy it while it lasts and you dont need money it is only a burden

Answer 1

wow someone else who notices this!
I read an artical about how neighbors are not really neighbors any more they just live next to someone!
they polled some people somewhere! Iknow not really relable but anyway~
they say that over 60% of people don't know there neighbors name!
i guess they had it right in the ol days more friendships!
But there is always that execption! and from my view I don't talk to strangers but i work in Detroit I'm female with no body guard I don't think the ratio is good for me to go up to strangers and talk to them!
even helping somone on the side of the road! again i'm playing the female card!
But now with most peoples mindsets they look at you like a wacko or someone who is drunk when someone approaches another!
so i feel you to a point! but maybe if the world were not so evil then i would feel at ease talking to other peeps!
Well
Mad luv!~

Answer 2

Because everyone is 'law-suit crazy.' Doesn't matter what you say, sometimes because EVERYTHING, BUT EVERYTHING always has to be viewed as a racial slur, or politically incorrect. We even have a tough time finding out if or not someone is gay or straight because we may be harassing them.

See, some issues are better left IN THE CLOSET...as they were back in the 50's. People make fun of that, but we could go out and leave our doors unlocked for the weekend and nothing would be touched. Neighbors loved neighbors and that caring and love came naturally.

I talk to people in line at the stores about general things, or the silly stuff I seen in the tabloids on the front cover. Makes us laugh. That's about the only thing I feel safe discussing anymore. It's the forever bull....'OH, DON'T SAY THAT!! THAT'S NOT POLITICALLY CORRECT!' Who gives a rats pa-toot!

Answer 3

I'm not sure if you are from the US or the UK, but being friendly to strangers is more common in the US then most countries. Maybe not in bigger cities, but I live in Southern California and here, if we make eye contact with a stranger we automatically smile (most of the time) and for me it's hard to ride the bus with out someone making small talk. I've heard that in other places (England and France specifically) it's much different and people tend to keep to themselves. Eye contact is avoided completly. I read in a french guide book that the biggest mistake americans make when visiting Paris is trying to be friendly to strangers- then being shocked when in response they're looked at as if they're crazy. I've always wanted to travel and It will be hard for me not to smile at strangers or even amke eye contact in some places..... I agree with what you said that we should try to enjoy life more and not be so worried and frightened all the time-- try to seize life you know? But I think it's getting more and more difficult for people with some of things that go on in the modern world. Good question :-)

Answer 4

I know what you mean...I try to make conversation with people when I'm in town at the grocery check-out line or waiting at the oil change place, whatever...but people rarely talk back. It seems the only people who don't mind talking to "strangers" are older peole. It's a real shame. On the rare occasion that someone does speak, it's a nice way to pass the time!

Answer 5

an unfortunate truth is that money is a necessity is to live life in a society. As for the terminal shyness, I often wonder about this myself and cannot come up with a solution. I suppose it is the emphasize given to dating in the media. There are probably many other factors.

Answer 6

I do talk to people all the time if I'm out and about . I do it on propose so maybe I'll start something . People are usually pretty receptive .

Answer 7

great point.. Our society today people are so scared of offending one another people might just figure i'll keep my mouth shut. Michael Richards understand?

Answer 8

In my line of work, I try not be be noticed.