My boyfriend and I have been getting serious lately. Talking about moving out and working on getting our careers. His mother used to let me spend the night all the time, I was there alot. I felt more comfortable there. Then one day his mom decides, she doesnt want me over anymore unless its a weekend. I came the the conclusion that she is upset/jealous, and thinks im taking her son away, when technically you can say i might be, But whether or not its me, Some girl will one day. Shes said some disrespectful things and Im almost positive she doesnt want us to be together. They got into an argument lastnight over it, and i dont think theyve spoken yet. Im so confused on what i should do, She wants us to see less of each other, probably so that it bothers us into a possible breakup. What should I do?
2006-11-27 08:56:19 · 6 answers · asked by idontevenknow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should just be a good girlfriend and do not let her get in the way of your happiness. Remember to always respect her and that she loves your boyfriend so she will back off sooner or later. Do not try to compete with her, let her look bad and your boyfriend will cling more to you because of her negativity, then she will realize that she is pushing are son away from her and closer to you. Then she will back off for sure.
2006-11-27 09:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life and this guy' life his mom has no right to interfere.
Though it sounds like he lives at home and she feels it is not right for you to be over all the time. You are not married and she feel uncomfortable you spending the night so much maybe invite your BF over to your place to spend the night if its okay with you. I think mom does realize that her son is getting older and doesn't want to lose him trust me this happens alot with moms I speak of the same experience with my own mom. Give mom some space and time with her son have him come to your place once in awhile and when you two move in together well then your free to do what you please. It sounds like you are both young as well mom could also be worried about her son getting a good career
and his life in control before the whole serious relationship phase
so make sure that you tell his mom that you are both looking at getting careers in order and finishing school/college/university before we even think of marriage and if you guys are doing
the wild thing protection protection protection trust me as young as you sound you want NO SURPRISES!
2006-11-27 09:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation myself, although me and my fiance have already moved out. The most important thing is not to let his mother get in the way of your relationship. If you two decide to get married one day, his primary responsibility will be to you, not her. Unfortunately, I don't know of any good way to handle this sort of thing, because more than likely she is set in her ways and won't listen to what either one of you has to say. If I were you, I'd just move out (and I would hope that the boyfriend would move out, too, if he cares enough about the relationship) and stay away from her as much as possible. Maybe once she sees that her ways are pushing her son farther and farther away from her, she will lose the attitude and learn to treat you like the decent human being you are.
2006-11-27 09:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 02:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your boyfriends mom what caused her to make the decision that she made.Then sit down with her and have a conversation with her.Let her know how you feel about her son and how you feel about her decision.I think that you should tell her your point of view about you decision.I know you should do this because I have had problems with my girlfriends mother.But I set down and thought about how her mother felt about the situation.Then we came to are conclusion.
2006-11-27 09:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by bryan14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her...find out what her problem is.
2006-11-27 09:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋