This question is for guys please but girl feel free to answer
ok my husband watched our baby come out now from seeing all that he wont eat me out anymore what can i do to help him get over that so he will?
2006-11-27 08:34:24 · 14 answers · asked by new mother 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your husband was traumatized by watching the birth process, seeing all the blood and discharges coming out along with the baby, who is blue before it takes its first breath of oxygen. The sight, though considered a miracle, is nevertheless unnerving to the uninitiated. Therefore, your husband must either think that the part of your body that brings life into the world is off limits for oral sex, or he was so grossed out by the sight of it, that he's turned off completely. It may take a while for him to get over it. Are you having sex at all? If so, you may have to be content with that. If oral sex is that important to you, then your husband may need counseling to get over his phobia. You might remind him that he came into the world the same way, and so has every other person alive today, and that there's nothing abnormal about it. I might suggest that if you plan to have other babies in the future, that he be kept out of the delivery room. Some men can handle it, whereas others faint at the sight. Yours just grossed out.
2006-11-27 08:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long ago did he witness your baby come out? If it was very recent, it might be too soon for him to separate the image of the baby coming out from the sexual aspect (although if it was very recent, I would think you wouldn't be interested in sex either...)
Talk to hubby about his aversion. Is he disgusted, scared, does he think your vagina is a temple now, what is the problem? Make sure he remembers that having sex is what put the baby in there in the first place and that it is okay for both of you to enjoy all of the things you did before baby arrived. Try some aids, perhaps flavored ones. You may need to kick things up a notch in the bedroom to get him heated enough to do that. But above all try to communicate and ask HIM what the problem is. Let him know how much you enjoyed that aspect of your sex life and ask what he thinks he needs to resume that. Presumably he does not mind having sex, so remind him that that is just another aspect of sex, one that you'd be happy to enjoy again. And don't forget to return the favor!
2006-11-27 08:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by WifeMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just going to have to get over it -- and he will. As a new mom your sex life will change for awhile no matter what. He's probably having a hard time coping seeing you as a mother and not just his sexual partner. It probably has more to do with everything that comes with becoming a parent -- the tiredness, the not being able to have sex whenever and wherever, the shifting roles between the two of you -- than it does with that fact that he saw the baby come out of you. Just give it some time. You'll get your sexual mojo back together soon enough.
2006-11-27 08:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being stupid and selfish. He needs to get over it. It's child birth..it's not like your vagina still looks like a baby is coming out of it. I would stop giving him oral..or any kind of sex for that matter.
2006-11-27 08:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by ktpb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give him time, he'll be OK. Lets face it, it's your body and you feel the pain but you don't see all the view! Sometimes not pleasant. Just reassure him, don't make a big issue of it (even if you feel it is) then when he feels ready he'll be down there again soon ;) Good luck
2006-11-27 08:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by WaftyCrank 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry for ya...he obviously has a weak constitution. Time should help w/ the issue. Though its gross, surely one could get past the memory to please the one they love. But if he can't then I'd say go on strike, he's got to lick to get licked or lick it before you stick it.
2006-11-27 08:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby had the same problem...I told him to get over it...its not like my crotch was going to suck him in. It takes a while...its perfectly natural...just give it some time
2006-11-27 11:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex or giving him a b-j. Go on strike. He just needs to get over it, but he won't if you don't make him.
2006-11-27 08:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him oral until he gets over it. I have had 5 kids and my husband has never had issues like that.
2006-11-27 08:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by JS 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think you need to wait longer
it is quite shocking for guys to see it.
thankfully we dont see the whole lot.
2006-11-27 08:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by ballet-babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋