After having a baby, has anyone felt more concerned about death? If so, how do you cope?

Answer 1

Yes, actually I had been trying to get pregnant when my grandfather died unexpectedly last December and we found out we were expecting just days later...it was a hard time for me, lots of mixed emotions. Since the birth of our daughter in August I feel overwhelmed occasionally by the thought of something happening to me or anyone in my family for that matter. It's a hard thing to deal with and I have found that when I feel that way the best thing I can do is talk to my husband. He always assures me and then I go look at our children and think about how thankful I am for every moment I get with them. I think that's about all you can do...be thankful :) I hope this helps, you aren't alone.

Answer 2

I was so upset thinking about death I had a panic attack in the hospital after having my son in june. He came a month early because I ended up with severe preeclampsia when i went in for my 36 week check up. It didn't help that they gave me perkasetts either...which i think i had allergic reaction to.

I try not to think about it. I want to think about all the time inbetween then and now that are going to affect my sons happiness in life. Also my step father passed away whne i was 19 weeks pregnant. A week later I found out I was having a a baby boy.

Answer 3

The hormonal adjustment after giving birth leads to all kinds of thoughts, one of which is to be more fixated on your own death. It's completely normal to have these new thoughts that you are not used to, but trust me, these thoughts will go away as you settle into the new rhythm of your life as a mother. You could be experiencing some sort of post-partum depression if you are fixated with thoughts of death.

If you think that you are obsessing with these thoughts, you may want to seek some sort of help or a support group or something.

You're completely normal in having strange thoughts or new fixations after birth and you will get back to your normal self within a few months or so. But please get help if you feel that something "isn't right" in your mind right now. You shouldn't have to suffer in your thoughts or fixate on things that upset you.

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Nothing seems so scary as the idea of having your precious new baby taken away in some fashion. Babies also remind us of our own mortality. It's a normal "mom" feeling and it will pass, at least on the level that you're feeling it now. If you continue to worry, talk to you physician about it.

Answer 5

Yes, totally.

Once I had my children I suddenly understood how scary and dangerous the world was. I watched the news and cried. I watched dvd's and cried. There are certain sorts of films that just touch such a nerve now.

I just see my children in this world, and am scared and sad for them.

I find there are a lot of things I find myself worrying about, and I have to actively remind myself that lots of children grow up, and it is my job to prepare them for adulthood and to let them go and let them grow up.

I am beginning to realise that my fear of the world is more to do with me, than with them. I don't want to teach them to be scared of the world, and their place in it. I want them to stand proud and take their place, so am working hard at letting them grow up.