What do you think about teenage pregnancy?

Question

I don't understand why people always look down on teen pregnancy? I am 15 and I want a baby so bad. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 7 months and he has proved to me that he is responsible and will be a good father. I am not happy with my live right now and I will do anything to get out of it. Both my parents abuse me and I cannot live like this anymore. My boyfriend has family in another state and he also has a good job with his dad up there. I also do online school so that isn't really a problem. I think I might already be pregnant but I have not taken a pregnancy test. Me and my boyfriend have been trying to get pregnant and we couldn't be happier about or disicion. I do not see teen pregnancy as a bad thing if you have a sold error proof plan. I see my plan as getting out of the horrible life I live now and starting a new and better one. I can give my child anything and everything he/she would even want or need. I want to know what you all think. Thank you.

Answer 1

Do you not have other family members you can move with??

I am 20 and i have 3 year old twins, and i thought my boyfriend was going to be there for me and support me and he ended up leaving me when i told him i was pregnant. i couldn't understand why he did, when we had already talked about having a family and he said that he was okay with it. i was lucky enough to find guy that cares about me and kids, he has been there for me through out my pregnancy and till now. so if you aren't pregnant, just take care of yourself and enjoy being a teen.

Answer 2

The thing that upsets people about it is the fact that teenagers can be very, very immature. Looking back at myself, I'm glad I didn't get pregnant until I was 18. I was pretty crazy in the head with hormones and insecurity and angst and all the typical teenage emotional issues. It would've been disastrous if I'd tried to raise my own child any earlier. And I'm old enough now to know that I still have a lot of growing to do. There are so many obstacles, education, jobs, etc. You will, of course, do what you want to do, but I think that you need to take care of your emotional issues first. You said you're in an abusive home situation. Having a baby won't fix that. A call to the appropriate authorities will, though. Also, men are fickle. Boy, can I tell you that. A boyfriend never sticks around. But you'll always have yourself. And raising a child on your own is -hard-. I hope you get everything taken care of.

Answer 3

Ok listen to me. I had a baby when I was 19 and I was married but I'm not anymore. It is very hard to deal with the everyday needs of a child. I'm sorry you feel that your life is bad but a baby will not fix that. If anything, the child will make life more difficult. I would suggest seeing a counselor for your other problems. If your parents are truly abusing you then somehow you need to be removed from the situation. There is so much involved in the care of a baby including money, emotional care, and physical care. Honestly, you are still very young yourself. Don't get me wrong I love my son more than anything but he requires all of my time. Everything I do is for him. I wish that you could see just how much work a baby is, and you have to know that the life you want for yourself will have to wait until your child is grown. You do need to get a pregnancy test to figure out if you are pregnant now, and if your not see a doctor and get on the pill.

Answer 4

Well, I got pregnant when I was 17 (right before I turned 18) and it was tough but I still did it all...went to school, worked, took care of an apt, and took care of my son. It was really hard at some points but I was so determined to make our lives better that it kept me going. I graduated college in four years and my b.f (baby's father) and I got married and we have a home and are expecting our second child in Jan. I don't know what I would do without my son! Although he wasn't planned he has been the best thing to ever happen to me! I can't wait for this baby because I know how wonderful having two will be. I was a little bit older then you when I had my son. I'm not sure that I would suggest trying for a baby at 15. I can understand wanting one but you're still in high school. I would at least wait till you are graduating high school. If you think you can handle it and you can actually provide for the baby well, then who am I to say anything. But remember having a child is a big responsibility and once that baby comes there is nothing you can do to change your decision. It can be a wonderful experiance but if you're not completely ready it can be a very tough life. Make sure you completely think things through. I would suggest waiting a couple of years but you're going to do what you're going to do. Just be ready for it that's all.

Answer 5

First you should not get pregnant to get out of a problem. A baby will only make a situation more complex. I sorry you parents abuse you.Is their any family members you can live with? I had my son when I was 14 and this did not improve anything. It is not easy bring up a child especially if you are not ready. Try to get control of you life. You do not want your child in an abusive home. How do you know how hard it will be for you to leave you parents home, with a baby it will be even harder. Talk to your boyfriend and see if he will hold off on the baby making until you life is under control.

Answer 6

when i was 16, i was raped and fell pregnant as a result. i decided to keep the baby, as i don't believe in abortion, unless it's absolutely vital for health of the mother.

7 months really isn't long enough to truly get to know someone. If he was to leave you, where would you go then? do you have a backup plan? what is the nature of the abuse? are your parents actually hitting you and stuff? yelling at you? or are they just 'bossing you around'? that's a bit different, when i was 15 i took that as abuse. if you really do need to get out of there, i would suggest you do everyhting you can BEFORE getting pregnant. please don't use a child to try and make all your problems disappear, in all likelihood, it'll only create more problems.

all that said, teen pregnancy can actually be beneficial to both mother and child. Women's bodies were created to bear children at a young age, that's why we get our periods at around 13 years old. look at all the problems associated with having children after the age of 30.

I think though, that you need some stability in your life, and i suggest you talk to some kind of therapist first. Good luck!!

Answer 7

I don't condone teen pregnancy, but I don't think you should use it as an option to get out of a bad situation. A baby is a huge responsibility and what if life throws you some curve balls even if everything is going smoothly now. Plus what if you and your current boyfriend don't last? Also, how can you encourage your child to go to school and excel in all that they believe in the their mother used them as an excuse to get out of a situation and didn't finish high school. AND, part of high school is maturing. You may think that you are mature enough to be responsible for someone else's life, but if getting pregnant is the only option you can think of to get out of your current situation then I'm here to tell you you're not. If your parents abuse you then call the police or go live with another relative.

Answer 8

I agree with others that having a baby will not help solve your problems... in most cases will only complicate them.
I have a friend who is 15 and just had a baby. While I think she is a great mother, she also is now realizing that she has a huge responsibility that she was not ready for. She can't go out with her friends or boyfriend whenever she chooses. She can't sleep in or even sleep through the night for that matter. She is having problems buying diapers and other necessities. While I understand the longing for a child, (I wanted kids young and ended up having my first at 22, I'm now 25) they are a lot of work!

Answer 9

Okay, I have nothing against teenage pregnancy because I got pregnant when I was 20, but the difference is, mine was an accident and was not planned. You are 15 and trying to "plan" a pregnancy. Its common for young ladies who come from an abusive household to want to have children so that they have someone to love them, but believe me. If you wait, it WILL be better. Having a child will not solve your problems. And why would you want to bring a child into the middle of all this. Figure your life out, work out all the problems, become happy ON YOUR OWN, and then think about having children....

Answer 10

WOOAAHH!! You need to slow down. You need to be 15. You should be going to the mall and the movies and hanging out with your friends, not changing diapers. Be young while you can be. Don't rush things. There is plenty of time for kids when you are older. If you are being abused, move out! Try just living with your boyfriend for awhile. Babies don't solve problems. They may fill a need you have emotionally but nothing in your life will improve right now because of a baby. You need to live with someone for a while to truly understand who they are. Live with your boyfriend for a couple of years. Make sure that he is the man you want fathering your child and make sure you are going to be financially stable enough for a child. Good Luck.