My boyfriend keeps having this nightmare, though the scenarios change each time, the theme remains the same, and in the end I leave him for my ex-boyfriend. We love each other more than anything and plan to get married after college. I would never, EVER cheat on him or leave him. We trust each other more than anyone in the world. We have been best friends since we met 6 years ago and he watched my painful relationship with my ex and helped me through it. We tried to date in the past, but I wasn't ready and before our relationship even began, my ex came crawling back and I took him, a mistake I regret to this day because of how it hurt my boyfriend (and myself). We have worked through this problem and talked openly and extensively about it. The issue has been resolved, so we thought. But his recurring dream suggests otherwise. Is he paranoid? Just struggling with a haunting memory of our past? Or is there something more here that I am missing? And how can he make these dreams go away?
2006-11-27 08:01:56 · 8 answers · asked by special_kt9 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
His dream starts out with me beside him, then he turns around and I'm not there. He starts searching frantically for me. He eventually finds me in the arms of my ex. He wakes up in a cold sweat, heart pounding, super pissed, hurt and depressed.
2006-11-27 09:25:52 · update #1
he's worried about it...simple as that....you need to talk....
Maybe he's looking forward to the future so much it scares him that he might lose you...he has a dream of being with you....he's just being paranoid
2006-11-27 08:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be worried. Your dreams are just probably the embodiment of your fears and anxieties, concerning your upcoming marriage. You're just probably very scared and insecure in taking such a big step in your life. If you know that you're over your ex then you don't have to worry about cheating on your fiance in dreams. Dreams are something we seldom have control over nowadays. Your ex probably represents the freedom and the lifestyle you are experiencing in your life right now, or perhaps the mistakes you hae made in the past which you don't want to make again. Your fiance represents the more barriered life of marriage. A part of you is afraid to lose that freedom and lifestyle, or make the same mistakes, which explains why in the dream you went back to your ex. You should talk over your worries with your fiance, I know that he will make you feel more secure about your decision to get married. I'm no expert in dreams but I think that that is what it means. Good luck in your marriage.
2016-05-23 14:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Sigmund Freud's "On Dreams." It is fairly short, but offers some good insight into dream analysis. You can get it at most major booksellers in the psychology section.
2006-11-27 08:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's guilty of cheating on u and knows if u find out u're gonna dump him like a hot potato. He has issues. Mostly his own. U have nothing to do with his guilt. He has feelings of insecurity and unsureness of his own. Investigate his insecurities. Check to see if indeed he has cheated on u and he is hiding it. I'd bet my last dollar he has a secret.
2006-11-27 08:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah, maybe he's cheating on you. that's a real cop out answer isn't it? that's a real easy explaination. too bad it's not the right one!!!!! FYI, i'm the boyfriend, and that is most certainly not the case, so if you actually have any idea what the hell you are talking about, suggestions would be greatly appreciated. but for those of you who are paranoid yourselves of being cheated on, let's not make assumptions, just cuz your boyfriend did it. k?
2006-11-27 09:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by i_shelton85 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has cheat on you? Maybe..I'm not saying its true. It can also mean that he is scared that he will go through your pain and won't be able to have you anymore and he loves you. I think he is just scared of losing you to that other loser who doesn't deserve you.
2006-11-27 08:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by lexi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is insecure. Maybe you should go to couples counseling.
2006-11-27 08:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe that happened in a past life
2006-11-27 08:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by RENE H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋