EVEN IF A MAN HAS A WIFE DO YOU THINK IT IS OK FOR HIM TO STILL LIKE PORN.... WHAT DOES THAT MEN OF THE WIFE.... DOES IT MEAN THAT SHE IS NOT ENOUGH SEXUALLY FOR HIM?
2006-11-27 07:27:23 · 22 answers · asked by Michelle A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know women get worried sometimes about porn. It's exciting stuff for all of us sometimes, sometimes it can be gross.
I don't think that men who watch porno dont love their wives, he probably will love you more for letting him do it. Heck try watching it with him you might like it, but don't get upset if he is more intuned to it than with you.
I'm not saying that watching porno is ok all of the time, you don't want your man to have a polluted mind, but don't think that he loves you less because he watches porno. It's just exciting to him.
You're probably enough sexually, but he is looking at something that stimulates his curiosity.
Don't take it personal!!!! Seriously!! It has nothing to do with lack of love.
2006-11-27 07:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-16 21:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a secret that I maybe should not tell on a public forum... SOME WOMEN LIKE PORN TOO! Porn is fantasy. Instead of going out in the world looking for another man I'd rather watch what there is to offer on video. If I don't like what I see I simply press the FFwd button and look for another one.
My husband and I sometimes make a game out of porn where we try to do everything that they're doing. We win if they quit first. We've never won, but we've always had a lot of fun.
I think if the man is looking at pornographic material and feels the need to hide what he's looking at then you do have a problem. It may not mean that you aren't enough for him sexually, but instead may mean that you've sent signals that he can't trust you completely.
If you know or even suspect that he's secretly watching or flipping through some type of pornographic material then you take the initiative and either tell him to stop or go rent a porno that you two can watch together. Try to do everything that you see on the video and I'd bet you'll have a wonderful evening.
2006-11-27 07:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I have been told it has nothing to do with you. My husband and I used to have big fights over porn. I have learned that it is just something that men do. It has nothing to do with the fact that they are not attracted to us (you) One thing that has worked for us is. that we have watched porn together a couple times. I'm really okay with it if we watch it together. The other thing is very important on his side. I think if it is hidden, it is out of our minds. I'm not sure if my husband is still looking at porn, but since we have had our many discussions, I have not caught him looking at it. Key thing for him "out of sight, out of mind" for you. Good luck, and try and be patient and have some very serious conversations about this. There are also some support groups on line.
2006-11-27 07:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn comes in different forms. True porn in my book is looking at pictures or videos of the same old same old in/out. Boring.. this type of guy may turn out bad down the line.
Looking at stuff like "Girls Gone Wild" is just fun stuff most men enjoy and harms no one. Any guy that does not enjoy a fine figured gal in a skimpy bathing suit might be gay or a born again Ted Haggart.
2006-11-27 08:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word: testosterone. It's what makes women attractive to us, a basic instinct for procreation. Any man who says he doesn't look at women is either gay or a liar. Some men have fantasies, porn often is nothing like real life. It may have nothing to do with his wife, he may simply just like it.
2006-11-27 10:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is an issue that you need to decide for yourself where you stands. The issue isn't is it okay for men to like porn, the issue is, is a man liking porn a deal-breaker in the relationship for you?
This is something that you have to decide for yourself, without regard for how other people feel. You're the one who is going to have to live with the man: are you okay with him looking at porn, or are you not? Are there some things you're okay with (e.g., Playboy is okay but not Hustler; you're okay with him looking at pictures, but not going to a live sex show) and some things you aren't?
You need to be honest with yourself about this and about how far you will go to compromise, and then stick to your beliefs even if it costs you some relationships. You're better off being loved by a man who knows who you are and what your limits are, than being with a man for whom you have to distort and compromise your values in order to get him to stay.
Define your limits. Know what you are willing to tolerate, and what you're not, and then stick with them. You'll be happier that way than making a bad compromise to make someone else happy.
2006-11-27 08:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should a man not like porn? My husband enjoys is and so do I. We watch it together and sometimes laugh at it and sometimes enjoy it. There is nothing wrong with it and it doesn't always mean it is something that is lacking in their sex life. I guess you could say that it is your perspective on things. I wouldn't worry too much. Be glad that he isn't out cheating on his wife.
2006-11-27 07:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by carmadsmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only men like porn women do. Soft porn is romance novels. Everyone has the fantasy side its just whether or not you allow it to show. you can hide in a closet your entire life or just be free.
2006-11-27 09:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by sandra m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not this question again!!! Men like porn becuase it gets them off. There are also a lot of women who like porn as well. And most, fantasize about other men at least once during their lifetime. Please don't make it sound like men are the ONLY ones that like porn.
2006-11-27 07:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋