I've been in therapy for about a month for anorexia and cutting. I'm doing good, ALOT better then I was, at the very least. Im eating, (if not the amount I'm supposted to) at least more then I was,and I'm slowley increasing it. I haven't cut in over a week. Im doing fine, but my moms wreck. How can I make her feel better?
2006-11-27 07:22:29 · 14 answers · asked by nikki 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Awww that's so sweet of you.
Sit down with your Mom and talk about it. Tell her what you're doing now and how you feel about it. She's probably worried about you, and letting her in on what's going in her your head will help because it will keep from from imagining the worst.
She probably also feels some of this destructive behavior you are conquering is her fault. I can't tell from this whether or not that may have truth to it, but in any case it's best to talk about things rather than let issues fester.
Honesty, love, communication, and acceptance is what you both need. No one is perfect, but families have a unique opportunity to hold hands and face down even the worst of problems together, even the ones between you.
2006-11-27 07:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I myself am a recovering anorexia (not a cutter though) I too am in therapy. The problem is that our parents are worried about us and dont want it to return to the way it was, completely out of their control. I find that being helpful and helping around the house helps a lot. ALso, do fun activities and small things with her. That way she knows you are doing fine, and will feel relaxed (plus you will get to know each other better, trust me,)
Bottom line is, spend fun time with her, talk to her about things in your life that you think she can handle, and keep at recovering
Oh, feel free to email or IM me! I would love to talk to you.
Keep at it, If I can do ot, so can you!
2006-11-27 15:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Terra_chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you re doing good. sweetie i used to be the same as you and a week is good but doesnt mean you have quit. i would go up to 3 weeks then when i had a melt down i would start up again. so just resure ur mom that u are doing better but u have to understand that u need to give it time she just loves u and she probably doesnt really understand it, most people dont just tell her u love her that always makes then feel better and let her know u are trying and doimg ur best. but keep up the good work.
2006-11-27 15:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just worried because she loves you and she wants the best for you. The only way you can make her feel better is to keep working on yourself. When she sees that you are improving, she will start to feel better too.
Congratulations on your accomplishments (increasing your food and not cutting)! It's wonderful that you are working hard to tackle your problems. Keep it up!
2006-11-27 15:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Julie F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take a lot longer then just a month. Keep up your therapy and your eating and not cutting and it will reassure her. Congrats on your accomplishments so far!!!
2006-11-27 16:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of two girls, the best advice I can give to you is talk to her. Even if it is just to say, "hey I feel good." Make sure you talk to her about things. My daughter is 12 and we talk about everything from growing pains to boys still having cooties.
You may not want to talk with your mom about everything, but just give her enough to where she knows you love her and you will tell her what is going on with you, if it is necessary.
2006-11-27 15:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Just to help! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on working on stopping but you still need time before your mother to relax a little bit. I used to be a cutter and it took me months before i even stopped. You need to continue to eat and work on not cutting It will be extremely hard, but i know you can do it.
2006-11-27 16:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by dirtbikechiky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat that your in. Except for I was a major cutter. Trust me its going to take time for your mom to be okay again. Just make sure you talk to her and keep her in the picture. If you have a prob make sure you go to her and talk to her.
2006-11-27 17:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how much better you're doing now. I think it's great that you're willing to help yourself get back on track. Just tell your mom that you love her and that you wouldn't lie to her about doing better. Also pray for her.
2006-11-27 16:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by frodobaggins115 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Julie F also the way to show your mom that you are ok is if you NEVER do the stuff again.
2006-11-27 15:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by Autumn B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋