my husband is not sexually attracted to me what can i do in order to make him crazy about me?

Answer 1

try screwing another guy; that oughta get his attention!!

Answer 2

I thought the same thing about my husband for awhile, but he has proven my assumptions wrong. See, when we met I was small and quite cute. Now, 9 years later, 1 baby, thyroid surgery, etc. I have gained weight and am not near as cute as I once was. Do you assume that he isn't attracted to you or has he proven it?

I like some of the SPICE IT UP suggestions, but detest those that suggest you should sleep with another man or let him catch you with a woman. Those would be things you would want to do only if you WANTED to do those things and NOT just to get his attention.

I suggest that you try some lingerie and lotions. Massage him and love him like you've never done before. If you try and still can't get his attention then ASK HIM WHY. You will never really know what's going on until you ask.

I hope everything works out for you and your husband. Don't do anything that you will regret later.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

It depends on whether he is just not attracted to you or not really attracted to anyone. Men in their 30's and 40's often suffer from low testosterone levels which inhibit their sex drives and cause them to withdraw sexually.

On the other hand, if it's just you, remember that men are visually stimulated. If you're overweight and your husband finds that unattractive, you could lose some weight. If you're too skinny and your husband likes some "meat on the bones" you could gain some weight. Buy some sexy lingerie and dress up for him. Wear a mini-skirt with no undies. Give him a lap dance. Give him oral sex. Whisper your dirty thoughts in his ear. Tell him he can have you any way he wants. Make it easy for him. Guys are lazy so you just have to get his attention and then do the work.

Answer 4

I'm sad to say this, being a husband and all, but usually what restarts the fires a burning again, is the thought of someone else wanting you. My wife and I have arranged night in which we go to a club and enter at different times. I watch as the men approach her and buy her drinks and flirt with her, some may rub on her and touch her in places that she knows I'm watching and it will drive me crazy. After awhile I will go up and also try picking her up, usually she allows me to take her home, the sex is great and I have a new feeling for her, knowing that she has chosen me to be her lover. Good luck and have fun.

Answer 5

You don't know what atrracted him to you physically in the first place? What was it - your eyes, hair, shape, legs, willing attitude towards sex - what?

Keep in mind, many women get married and go, "Whew! I am married now! No more bj's, no more watching my weight so closely (guys say this too), no more makeup, no more long hair. I'll lop my hair off, gain 25 pounds, stop wearing makeup, and wander around the house all night in a big Penn State sweatshirt and huge pj bottoms and big wool socks."

Right when women are thinking that way, married guys are thinking, "Yes! Sex on demand 24/7/365! Boo-yah!!!" Then they see this chubby shorthaired Penn State troll (not that you are he just sees you that way) with wool socks whose favorite line is "No, no more bj's for you. Not tonight. I'm tired." and it's like "Gah-ah-ahhh! Wha' happened?"

So the disconnect is that you two did not talk about sex drives and sex activity after your marriage *before* you got married. And if women were honest they would say that they sometimes *avoid* that talk because it can be a deal-breaker. If you tell a guy listen no more sex after we get married, geez he might back out.

Anyway, even if you *did* have a talk beforehand, he forgot and is thinking with his pecker. So, grow your hair back, lose the weight, wear something sexy, put on some makeup, *act* like you feel sexy and then you will start feeling sexy, buy a thong, have him drop his weight, get him some silk boxers, and most importantly, change your attitude about sex back to the pre-nuptial way of thinking, which was you have got to have some of his action or you might not make it another day.

No matter what your weight, hair length, or lingerie choice, it is that attitude that will change *everything*.

Answer 6

There's a whole bunch of reasons people lose interest in each other, most of them emotional. They say anger is the #1 reason for lack of sex in marriage. Do you guys have some stuff you need to talk about, maybe things you thought were resolved or not that big a deal, that he might be resentful about?

Sit him down and talk to him. Try using all that psychobabble "I" language - it's corny but it's also valuable. Don't put him on the defensive, but listen to his side of things without reacting immediately.

One thing my husband & I learned at counseling is "7 Minutes" Once a week, we would sit down with a timer, set it for 3 minutes, and one gets to talk without interruption, then set it for 1 minute, and noone talks, then another 3 minutes, the second person talks. When the second person talks, it is not in response to the first, but their own concerns and feelings from the week. Obviously take turns going first. it sounds simplistic but it made a big difference for us.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Perhaps he has suppressed sexual urges he wants to perform and doesn't feel easy speaking to you about them.. Tell him you're open to any suggestions at all. Be careful not to let him do everything all at once though - he might find that there's not much point after that.
Wear some nice underwear under a long coat the next time you go and pick him up from somewhere, then don't go straight home! An ex girlfriend did that to me once and it really invegorated interest in her again. She is still an ex now though.

Answer 8

Why not? What is his reason behind not being attracted to you?

There are things you can do, but if he isn't attracted to you, it may be that nothing will help. Try going to the gym and working out, lose weight if you need to. Go get a make-over, manicure and pedicure. Try being more social, spend more time doing things you enjoy...sometimes distance can make the heart grow fonder.

Is your husband having an affair? Sometimes men use that excuse, "i'm not attracted to you anymore", as an excuse to make themselves feel better about something they are doing. I don't want to put things in your mind, but it is a possibility.

Good luck to you

Answer 9

Well maybe you need to spice it up a bit. Now is the time you try new things. Maybe a new hairstyle...a new workout routine and new sexy talk. Think of yourself as super sexy and believe it. Once you believe it, he will believe it too. (Guys can be dumb! J/K Confidence is very important) You should be more playful and imagine that he is this new guy...that you are soooo into and that he really wants you...don't think he is not sexually attracted to you too...maybe he is...it just needs to be spice up a bit more...You can do it. Work it! Suprise him. Be naughty! Try new positions...new places...new clothes...be flirty and laugh with him!

Answer 10

Courage means action,"
u are saying you are afraid of being rejected by your hysband. your courage is an important step in resolving your problem.

"It's hard to be close to someone,"
. "It's much easier to stay distant. Embrace the courage that you're starting today."

To sustain a loving connection, the couples should invest in their "marital ATM account." Just like a cash ATM, a couple's relationship needs regular deposits if they hope to get anything out of it.

Instead of working at their relationship, people in troubled marriages may be tempted to wish for a better partner who would meet their needs—a fantasy that's far from reality, "Until [you] become the right person, then [you] cannot draw out in someone else what [you] want to have happen. It's about you healing yourself."

Answer 11

Try to do something new and interesting in bed. Refer to a couple of adult movies for ideas.

Has it every occured to you that maybe he is attracted to you but you don't feel attractive? Do things for yourself that will make you feel better about yourself. Have a day of beauty, pamper yourself, go to Frederick's of Hollywood and buy something sexy.

And if all else fails turn of the lights and go for what you know!