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or make it a double barreled name??

why?

2006-11-27 07:04:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I hyphenated my name with my husband's, because at the time we got married (1978), this was still very much a women's liberation issue.

My hyphenated last name is 19 characters (counting the hyphen). It is a combination of French and Italian and is virtual unpronounceable and very difficult to spell. It gets truncated by virtually every computerized database in existance. People still don't know how to deal with a hyphenated name, so it gives me fits everywhere I go. It's a real pain in the patootie sometimes.

I'm proud of it, but I have to say that I've defaulted to using my husband's last name most of the time now, because having to deal with a difficult hyphenated name is just too bothersome, and I'm at the age where convenience trumps making a statement. Heck, I've made my statement; about time I got some convenience!

My advice: unless your hyphenated name is something really short and easy (Smith-Jones or Black-Brown or Wing-Wang or something like that), forget the hyphenation option and either keep your maiden name or go with your husband's. Otherwise you're in for nothing but aggravation from a world that thinks that names should be no more than 16 characters in length, max.

2006-11-27 07:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0 0

There are a few different reasons why this could bother him. Traditionally, of course, the wife always takes the man's last name. Catholics are very traditional. I don't consider myself a Christian, but there is a saying that "once a Catholic, always a Catholic." I was actually raised Catholic, and sometimes I miss the tradition and ornate feeling of the church. Secondly, he may feel as if you are snuffing him off and not proud to be his wife by "taking" his name. It could also be a bit of a power thing. I have been married for over three years and I have never taken my husband's last name. It frustrates my husband a tad, but it's not an issue. I kept my last name for family pride issues, plus the fact that I just don't understand why when a woman gets married she has to take someone else's name. I like my last name just fine, thank you! You're guy will just have to get over it=)~

2016-05-23 12:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well the only person I know who never changed her last name to any of her 3 ex husbands is my mother. She never explained why she didn't do it. She only asked me, "Why should I have to change my last name if I can keep my own?" She also said that women should feel in control of her life without having the feeling of their husbands' controling them. Not having the sense that they own you and not having their last name as your own, gives you that freedom...especially if the marriage doesn't work out. Not everyone ends up "Happily Ever After", when they get married.

2006-11-27 07:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0 0

Most women in the USA take their husband's last name. I think it's just to show that you are now officially part of the family. Although, some people keep their own, like celebrities and stuff. And hyphonated last names are kinda popular now, too. Really, it's up to you and it doesn't matter what you choose to do.

2006-11-27 07:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Thew 2 · 0 1

When I got married, it was actually a struggle for me. I kept using my maiden name for a while, and then one day, it just happened- I switched to his. I think it really was about identity. I was afraid that by letting my maiden name go, I was letting a part of myself slip away. I realized, that I was still me. I still had my birth name (my first name). I also realized, that I was a married woman. It is a part of who I am. Taking my husband's name was a way of acknowledging that I was taking him, and his family.

2006-11-27 07:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by aprilnicole1979 2 · 1 0

I took his last name. He wanted my last name but we decided it would be too confusing for family. Why? Because I want to show the world that we are connected.

2006-11-27 07:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Joyce H 2 · 0 0

People can choose, and do. If one is established professionally under a maiden name, it can make sense to keep it. Otherwise, it may be more reasonable to change it.

2006-11-27 07:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My last name only has 4 letters and if he has a very long one I wouldn't change it for convenience sake.

2006-11-27 07:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0 0

I took my partners last name, but I also had it hyphenated for personal reasons.

2006-11-27 07:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0 0

I would keep my own name. It may be my father's name, but it is more mine than my would-be husband's.

2006-11-27 07:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 0 0

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