Do You Think that having a baby b4 16 is wrong? Y or Y not?

Question

i want a baby!

Answer 1

Hey girlie,

This is not the best thing in the world to do for quite a few reasons. 1) It's quite hard for anyone under 18 to obtain a stable job to support not only themselves but someone else. With the cost of living constantly rising, it's just going to be harder and harder for you to survive. 2) Once this child arrives, the realization of responsibility will hit you all at once. You will then say to yourself "What did I really get myself into?" 3) Next you have to think about "Who's going to take care of my baby while I'm at school?" "Will someone really babysit for me when I want to go out with my friends?" "I can't go to prom because I don't have a babysitter." "I'm so sleepy because my baby doesn't sleep through the night yet." "Where am I going to get the money for more diapers?" "How am I going to get to the doctor?" "Why won't the father take care of his responsiblity? He said he wanted this baby too." "The guy I like won't talk to me because I have a baby." "Will I graduate high school?" " How can I go to that 4 year university with my baby?" "How will I still be able to join that sorority with a baby?"

Honey, there are so many many things to think about when you bring a child into the world, it's just not time. Don't force it. At the end of the day, you're going to wish you had lived your teen years independantly. Please, please wait until your time comes. You have way to many other things to accomplish. When your time does come and your child grows up, you can say, "Yes, I went to college and these are the experiances I had, and this is what you should watch out for." The more you live and experience, the more good advice you will have for your children to prepare them for life. This is part of what a good parent is. Giving good advise to steer the children in the right direction to become successful adults. :)

Answer 2

Well, I don't know whether it is WRONG, or not; there are a lot of factors that will make a difference.

Firstly, if you were married, it isn't wrong, but if you aren't, I believe it is, because you really aren't supposed to have sex before you're married.

Secondly, either way, even though you may really, really, want a baby right now, and even if things would work out if you did, I think it would be BETTER to wait. Finish school, get a job, find the love of your life, get married, and then have a child. It would be best for you, I think. I know people who have gotten pregnant at 16, and their lives are just fine, but it wasn't EASY. And once you have a child, and I know because I have one at age 22, it changes your life forever. You will NEVER have time for YOU once that baby is born. He/she comes first for the rest of your life. Because even if you leave the baby with a babysitter, you will still be thinking about him, and if a person doesn't feel this way, then I don't think they are a very good mommy.

Thirdly, even if after considering the second problem, you still think you would do it, then consider the life of your child. Even if you work through it and struggle, what about your child's life? It won't be easy, no matter what, and even if you can make that sacrifice, can you do that to your kid? Wouldn't you want what was best for your child? I'm not sure who the daddy would be, but I think that the BEST thing for that kid would be to have his daddy.

All in all, the decision is only yours to make, but from my experience with myself and the people I know, I hope you wait. My best friend had a baby at 17, and though everything worked out in the end, and she loves her kids to death, I don't think she would ever recommend someone to do that. And I waited until I had been married for two years before I had my first one, and I am glad that I did. I feel I am more mature, more financially stable, (although do not wait for that or it will never happen), and READY to take care of a child.

Just please consider this further before taking action. Your teenage years are especially crucial, because in six months you might change your mind, even though you don't think so now, you could (and probably will), I know, I was a teenager once. But if you have already gotten pregnant, then you can't go back, and that would mean that you had just condemned yourself AND your child to a life of misery, at least for a while. I don't know what you think having a baby is like, but believe me, it is WORK. You would have to get up in the middle of the night, attend to their every need, and you will get frustrated.

But, if after everything, that is what you decide to do, I for one would not judge you for it, and I would hope the best for you and the baby.

Answer 3

Why do you want a baby? I would say chances are there is more going on then just a desire to have a baby. Maybe you don't feel any love and think a child would love you unconditionally (I tell you that is not true) or do you feel like you have no control in this world and having a baby would give you something to be in charge of?
Or maybe you hate going out with friends and sleeping and want a baby to be a convenient excuse?
But if you want one so bad, maybe you should talk to a few women your age who have kids (there are plenty on here) and talk to them. If you really want a baby, you will also really want to provide the best life you can for that baby and maybe now is not the time?

Answer 4

Let me ask you something.

Would you take a job somewhere, that doesn't pay you anything, but you had to work at it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week? I doubt it...and that's what having a baby is...a job (a great thing for those who are ready), but nonetheless, a JOB. And not an easy one.

If you choose to have a baby at 16, you're screwed. You will have no education, won't ever get a decent job, have no money, and can't support your child.

If you even have to ask this question, thinking "ohhh I want a baby at 16"...you really need to grow up and think a little harder about your life and where you want it to go.

Answer 5

Yes, I think it's wrong. If you aren't even 16 yet you can't support yourself let alone a baby. I'm not saying you wouldn't love and care for the baby - I'm saying you can't get a real job and honey babies take lots of money. They are wonderful miracles when you do have one (I have a 19 month old) but you definitely need to be in a serious long term relationship and have the means to support your baby. If you get pregnant now, I could be wrong but I'd bet your parent's would be the ones that end up taking care of it and that's not fair to the baby or your parents. PLEASE WAIT!

Answer 6

I think this is the dumbest question I have ever heard. As a teenager you are still a child. You are under the care and supervision of your own parents and therefore have no right to have a baby. You have no means to support a baby nor a clue how to be a parent. It is just plain stupid to think that you are capable of self-sustaining let alone adding a child into the mix. Babies are not toys and cannot be disposed of when you get tired of them. You need to take a serious look at yourself and where you are headed.

Answer 7

Heyy me and u have the same avatar..! How kool..!

*Anywayz*

No, its not wrong, but its not the right choice...I had a baby at 15, and believe me gurl, its not easy being a teen mommy...! Everybody looks down on u and makes comments about u, but I just overlook them, b/c its my life and I made the choice to have her...I stayed in skool, and If u have a baby stay in skool too, Your education is the most IMPORTANT THING....!!! Make sure u can afford this baby and you have a great support system like I did...Oh yea, and make sure that the babys dad is gonna stay with u too and not run..My daughters dad stayed and is still with us today..!! I'm now 17 and I am engaged to my b/f who is 19 and my daughter is a year old...Were As Happy As Can Be...!! I hope having a baby will make u happy too...Good Luck...!! Dont let anyone put u down or stand in your way...!!!

Answer 8

God Yes! You can not support a baby. In fact you are a baby your self. Ask your self these questions. Do you have the means to support a child with out your parents help. Do you have a good job with health benefits? Are you able to support your self and the child and live on your own with out your parents help? Are you married? These things are really important to ask your self.

I think you want something to love & to love you back. Have you thought about a kitten or puppy? They give a whole lot of love to you, and don't cost as much. Having a child means not only a life long commitment, but loss of freedom. Are you willing to miss prom, dating, hanging out with friends at the mall or going to the movies? Your life as a teen would be over as you know it. Your child is #1 in your life, followed by school.

Please wait until you are married. I know that your parents love you. If they didn't you would not be here on the earth. Children need parents that are married and have a stable homelife. As a teen you will not be able to do that!

Answer 9

You know I had my oldest at age 18 and I can safely say that I wish I had waited. Now don't get me wrong I love my daughter more than anything; however, if I knew then what I know now, trust me I would have waited.

There are things that all girls should experience before having children. You should try traveling some and living life because once the children come along, life changes dramatically.

I should know, I wanted a little girl since I was 7 years-old, but I still wish I had waited.

Answer 10

wellll i do not think it is right.... the lucky few make it... but its hard
why would you want to put you and your child through those hardships?.... before you can really support a baby
you still have so much of life to experience... raising a baby on welfare is not fun for you or the child... what about the daddy?... yes single mothers can raise decent healthy children but it is so much better when there is an involved loving father
being a young mother is very hard.... in our society...
do you really want to be completely resposible for another person at this stage in life? when you are barely responsible for yourself?
why dont you get a pet or babysit or volunteer at a daycare or something... (church nursery?) try to make a good disicion that isnt completely selfish... just because you want it doesnt mean it is a good idea....