I am totally in love with this great guy who loves me back, the thing is last year he had to move to Texas with his parents, I still live in California but our relationship has still lasted. I miss him to death and I am applying for colleges I had decided a long time ago that I wanted to go to this college and since we have similar aspirations he wants to go to the same place. My parents are refusing to let me go away to college even though I will be paying for it myself. I want to leave, but I think they are too afraid of me leaving. I dont know how to tell them I am going away, all my friends know, but my parents dont take me seriously. I have never had a good relationship with them and when they found out that my best friend for most of my life now boyfriend who is away will be going to the same place. Since it is a great relationship they are afraid that we will elope, how can I get them to trust me?
2006-11-27 06:35:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been completely honest with my parents from day one...I am a strait A student and I havent ever gotten into trouble. I dont know why they dont trust me, I have never given them a reason not to.
2006-11-27 06:39:53 · update #1
Well, if you've been completely trustworthy growing up, and they don't trust you, they may never trust you. On college though, IF you're paying the whole bill (or have gotten a scholarship) and will not be dependent on your parents for financial support during college (not even to come home to live during summer breaks), then they really have no say in where you go to college, as long as you're over 18 as well. If you're a young senior, then you might have to wait until you're 18 to go to college. Once you're 18, all bets are off with your parents, they're no longer legally responsible for you, and you don't have to answer to them about what you do, you just have to support yourself while doing it.
Think long and hard about what your parents are saying though, they have some valid concerns. I don't think they don't trust you, but they were your age once (yes, I know that's hard to believe) and they remember that rush of feelings that accompany falling in love. They just don't want you to make a mistake that will affect you the rest of your life. They may be going about it the wrong way (but I've only heard your side of this tale), but most parents really love their children, and only want what's best for them.
2006-11-27 06:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be wise to focus on your career aspirations and why the college you are going to is the best idea for that. If they are afraid you will elope, let them know from your point of view what the challenges of elopement are and why it isn't for you. It is hard to make people trust you - only time can really show you for the responsible person that you are. Just live this last year with them in a responsible fashion, and it may help them to trust you. Hopefully, telling them will be go okay, but it may take them some time to accept your decision. If it goes really badly, or they don't seem to be accepting after a few weeks, you may want to talk to the guidance counselor at your school or to another counselor for suggestions and support. I really hope that everything goes well for you!
2006-11-27 14:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I eloped. As long as you're still going to school and you dont let him change your dreams do what you want. It's your life not your parents. As long as YOU can live with your decisions. Then do what you think will be best in the long run. Since you dont need your parents financial support, seriously do what you want.
2006-11-27 14:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by uh_huh_ok_wassup_shutup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're paying....what business is it of theirs? I'm sorry for being so rough but I was offered a full scholarship to Pepperdine to play Volleyball and my Mom didn't want me to move out so I ended up at a local University which i hated and screwed everything up for me I SAY GO FOR IT!!
2006-11-27 14:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust usually comes from Honesty. Have you been honest with them???
2006-11-27 14:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them and be honest.... Show them that you can take care of your self and tell them that they can trust you.
2006-11-27 14:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by winter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WILL BE OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE YOU OWN DECISION LEARN FROM YOUR OWN MISTAKES. DO WHAT YOU WANT EVEN IF THEIR UPSET.
2006-11-27 14:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋