2006-11-27 06:35:23 · 15 answers · asked by Stacye S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not trying to be a perv or pry into any1's life I just want advice on how to strike a happy and comfortable balanceplease.
2006-11-27 06:40:00 · update #1
He wants to go in thru the backdoor but I'm repulsed how to let him down gently.
2006-11-27 06:42:52 · update #2
I don't think there is anything wrong with setting some boundaries. If it repulses you he should respect that but maybe you could offer a different idea to try instead? There are times when I am not in the mood but allow myself to be talked into it which 99% of the time gets me in the mood because I think sometimes you have to respect that they need that connection. Respect goes both ways.
2006-11-27 06:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by haganmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is the art of compromise. Granted you shouldn't have to do anything you don't want, but I'm sure you don't want him to feel rejected or neglected. Try to find the middle-road, something where he'll still be satisfied and you still feel uncompromised.
2006-11-27 14:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to have been in uncomfortable situations with my husand. What I tend to do is request my own, give and take. That makes me a lot more willing if he is also willing to try new things.
2006-11-27 14:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by sammiegyrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be akin to being violated. NEVER do anything you are ill at ease with. But, be sure to talk, discuss your feelings and his feelings. Perhaps a little experimentation would be in order, it may be fun too.
2006-11-27 14:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do something you don't want to do. Where would the pleasure be in that? Be willing to grow and experiment some. You just might surprise yourself.
2006-11-27 14:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since communication is the key, you should approach the situation as if it is a hurdle in your relationship. be honest wether the reaction is good or bad. ask why he wants to do whatever it is and you might uncover some things.
2006-11-27 14:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ogbonna47 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and felt like I had been talked into it.He really wants anal and a threesome but I wil not budge on those requests.no and no because I know I will resent him and myself later...plus eewww.
2006-11-27 14:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't knock it till you try it
Take it slow and gental and see
If you don't like it, you don't have to do it again but you never know unless you try
2006-11-27 14:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell my husband-when I can stick the dildo in your back door we'll talk. He doesn't bug me anymore:)
2006-11-27 14:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by want2no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone should be open to anything. my husband wants to do this and enjoys it very much, so of course i would do it! i like to do things to please him as he does for me. i think you should try it once and then if you really dont like it then tell him.
2006-11-27 14:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by heaven-sin-t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋