my husband supposedly only has two more years to live. he hates it when i talk about it or show any emotion... but i look at him and my heart breaks that we are so young (19) and this is happening! i just want a way to fix it, but i can't..... how can i hide all the emotion and not think about it so he doesn't have to either? how do i say goodbye to him when the time comes?
2006-11-27 06:32:08 · 15 answers · asked by heaven-sin-t 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry to hear that this is happening to you and you're so young. I think the best thing to do is to live each day to the fullest and enjoy every minute together. Don't lose time worrying about the future. Live in the moment and make as many precious memories as you can. Take lots of pictures and videos and remember that Dr.s can be wrong and a lot is being done in the medical field. I have a friend who was told she only had 2 years to live back in the 90's. She prepared herself and her family for the worst. She is still alive and kicking to this day. Don't give up and again live for now and enjoy him each and every day.When you need to have a good cry, go somewhere alone and let it out. Right now you need to be his strength.
2006-11-27 06:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since he has 2 years to live he wants them to be happy 2 years. Tell him you love him. YES it is ok to be sad. talk to a friend once a week. Cry no more than an hour a day. The rest of the time be their for your husband. He does not want to dwell on it. He wants you to have happy memories of him. That is a great thing. Pray and ask for help. This is a sad story and I will pray for you as well.
2006-11-27 06:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Erika B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always okay to cry. It's probably heartbreaking for him to know that he's going to leave you and he can't do anything about it. All you can do is cherish the remaining time you have together. When you need to cry, go to your mom/dad/best friend's house and cry on his/her/their shoulder(s). You'll want your last memories of him to be happy, not sad. No one can tell you what to do in this situation because no one knows. I'm sure he's wondering how he's going to say goodbye to you when the time comes. All you can do is take it day by day. If he doesn't want to talk about it try not to talk about it. When he's ready he'll talk. Good luck... I can't imagine what you are going through.
2006-11-27 06:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Bob at Work is a tool! As a funeral director, I can tell you that your problems are all very normal. Just try very hard to enjoy the rest of the time you have together. Worry about saying goodbye when you have to.
Need more help, just e-mail.
2006-11-27 06:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ari A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to concentrate on living for today. When you open your eyes in the morning, remember 2 things, we do not own our future, and you don't know if it's going to be you the one who goes first, so why depress over something that still hasn't happened and something over which you can't do anything? Live the day, each day, try and build beautiful memories, and when the day arrives, you'll know there's nothing to regret.
2006-11-27 06:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't have to say goodbye. He will know you did. As far as not focusing on it, just think about all the happy times you have together.
I do wish you the best of luck, sorry to hear about this.
2006-11-27 06:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for what you are going thru,my prayers are with you and your husband.You have to be strong for you husband,try to stay busy with him .I Know is hard to stop thinking about it but with God's help you will get the strength to do it.Enjoy every second with him,tell him how much you love him .
When you alone cry aloud this will help you .
2006-11-27 06:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by VIANNEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep you emotions to yourself.....if you feel like your going to have to cry..leave the room.....try and stay happy when your around your husband..........sorry to hear this....sounds like trying times for you both, however your husband must want his last few years to be happy ones......You can understand that...
Stay strong for him!!!!!!
And I'm sure when the time has come you'll know just what to say.....
2006-11-27 06:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks about it, and it is best that you do not hide your emotions you will drive yoursel crazy. Try to make his time here memorable, and when he passes you will know that he was happy with you
2006-11-27 06:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by caddy12_99_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..I am so sorry to hear that.. you guys have to make the best out of the two years you have left. enjoy it! have some kids so you can have something to remember him by. that way a part of him will always be with you...btw..what's wrong with him?
2006-11-27 06:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Fabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋