He's 16 and has always said that he loves being an only child, but sometimes I wonder if I've hurt him somehow by verbalizing how glad I am that he is my only son. And it's certainly not because he was difficult -- on the contrary -- he is my angel, and he knows it. But I often state emphatically how I cannot imagine having other children.
2006-11-27 06:17:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Like I said -- he's happy as pie being sibling free, and he KNOWS how much I adore him. I just wonder if it might make him uncomfortable when he's heard me tell my family (who still bother me about it) that I do not want more children.
2006-11-28 04:13:46 · update #1
he seems to be happy so don't be paranoid by that.
2006-11-27 06:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by revolou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should voice your opinions in a positive way instead of negatively. He can only construe your remarks as being based on him as your only experience. Don't assume he knows how you feel. Try saying, "I'm glad that I am able to spend all my free time with you" or how about " It sure is easy knowing that I only have one education to pay for", " I like knowing that I am always here for you".
I have been blessed with 3 sons. The sound of their laughter always fills the house with a sound unlike any music ever could. I love knowing that should something ever happen to my husband and I that they won't be alone. They will have each other which is a much closer relationship than the one they have with extended family. Their memories of our family are joined. It is a gift to them. It hasn't always been easy with any one of them but I wouldn't trade it for the world. We are lucky to have had the opportunity to be mothers. Enjoy it as long as you can.
2006-11-27 14:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, especially at 16, you should be able to communicate why exactly you feel that way. It seems that he would be able to understand that it's not because he's a terror, but simply because you don't want any more (or whatever your reason). As long as he knows how much you love him and understands that you're not saying you wish you had no kids, he should be fine. However, maybe it would be a good conversation to have ("Son, did it ever bother you that I said I didn't want any more kids?" "Do you understand that the reason I don't want more kids has nothing to do with you" etc)
2006-11-27 14:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by psykochatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question only your son can answer. You should ask HIM that question and explain all of this to him. Even if he isn't hurt, I'm sure he'd love to hear how much you love and appreciate him. That's always nice.
2006-11-27 14:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the damage if it exists has already been done, so do not dwell on it it will only make thing worse
2006-11-27 14:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probs. dosent even care
2006-11-28 11:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋