2006-11-27 06:11:07 · 22 answers · asked by chicrock 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Emotionally probably not. You will probably always wonder who your child could have been and if you are going to hell for murder.
2006-11-27 06:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
Everyone is different. Medically to get over an abortion can last from a day-to a few weeks depending on the procedure and how far you were.
Emotionally you may never recover. Some people are fine from the beginning. Some feel fine until they have to confront the reality of what happened--example, when they carry a pregnancy to term and have the baby. Some people are broken from the beginning and take many months or years to fully recover. try this site for information: afterabortion.com
They have lots of information and they do not push one side or another.
2006-11-27 14:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The only way to know is to talk to someone you trust about what bothers you. Talk to a counselor or church member who can give you some sound advice without being judgemental. Physically, healing from an abortion doesn't take very long. Emotionally and spiritually, it will take as long as it takes for you to forgive yourself.
There is not point in beating up on yourself about what has happened. If you are really struggling with guilt, then give it all over to GOD and ask for help in dealing with this issue. No matter what you do, DO NOT hold your feelings inside. Talking to others who have been through it will help as well. It made the world of difference to my life.
2006-11-27 14:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Meesh 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Oh my love!!
At the moment, you are very fragile, give yourself the time and love that you need to recover.
Know that you have done what is best for you and your Angel, and know that no-one should judge you, because they are not you.
I don't believe that you will ever forget your baby, but you can move on when the time is right for you.
Nobody can put a measure on these things, the loss must be immense.
I hope that you read this carefully and understand what it is that I am saying to you. There are a lot of "if only's" in this world, but we must do our best to overcome them. We ALL have to make choises in our lives, some good, some not so good, but we make these choices so our lives will be better in the long run.
You are incredibly brave, but you will need to take a lot of deep breaths in the weeks to come.
Take good care Chicrock, your friend,
Lou
2006-11-27 19:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by lou archer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had mine in 1999 it's now 2006 and i am still not over it i feel like i should have never have done, but i think it was for the best u no i wasnt ready and lots of reasons, and now i am 24 and have a little girl and does feel sort of right now but i am still learning and i still can try and do things for myself career and training. but all people are very very different, it will get easier i promise u that give u a bit of advice please talk to someone about this ok need someone 2 talk 2 by all means
2006-11-27 20:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by mel240982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, and even after all these years I still wonder. I guess you've done the right thing because nobody puts them self through this sort of emotional agony for fun. Time does heal, and please don't feel guilty, beating yourself up won't change anything. Haven't you got anyone to talk to? this really isn't the place your leaving yourself open to criticism from the single minded...... Chin up.
2006-11-27 15:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi it can take a but it weeks medicaly but it can take a life time emontioaly i had one 2 years ago and it took months to get over the what ifs did i do the right thing but there was a reason i couldnt keep it and i am sure there was for you evan if it was only a small one. i hope yoyu feel better soon
please remember your not alone
2006-11-27 15:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by me_@yahoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey it might take you a little while to get over it but you'll be fine just keep your chin up focus your mind on other things. You wont totally forget but it will get easier in time
2006-11-30 14:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by jadehouston1987 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to WI mom, she's a cold hearted mean spirited person. She told me that since I'm poor that I should give my kid up for adoption and that I was lazy. She's just a TROLL.
BTW, the soul doesn't enter the body until after delivery, so don't feel guilty. Read the book by Edgar Cayce (the 20th century prophet who was amazingly accurate!) He even says that, and his answers were divined by his spirit guides.
2006-11-27 15:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
everyone is different sweetie. this is a very tough situation to be in....I, myself, used contraception, and it happened.....fortunetly, I had very supportive parents and a friend who had gone through this before. It's all about support and hopefully you have someone to confide in whether it be family or friends.....don't keep the emotion bottled up or it will eat you up inside....just know you made the right decision for yourself and feel confident in that.
2006-11-27 14:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
everyone has different way of dealing with things
some people can get over things easier than others
it depends on your strength of character
no one knows how long
but things always get better with time
2006-11-27 14:18:32 · answer #11 · answered by me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋