Is it normal for my boyfriend to do his thing while i'm around. He downloaded over 200 pictures of girls on his computer. He looks at them evereyday, and it is driving me crazy.
2006-11-27 06:05:15 · 19 answers · asked by dabombz85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is not being very considerate of your presence.
Its not normal its not respectful of him doing that in front of you if porn does not appeal to you. It suggest it does not matter to him what you think or feel. Who know's what other fantasies has or wishes to share with you and others. HE's got no manners at all. If its not your scene, consider changing boyfriends.
2006-11-27 06:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to handle this is for you to get used to the idea that he looks at, & downloads porn from the internet.
You will never have any control over him. The only person you do control is you, so that is why I suggest that a change in your attitude about the porn could bring you peace of mind.
However, if that idea doesn't appeal to you at all, then you MUST LEAVE HIM.
I am sorry to bring you this news but the only thing that makes an addict stop & think is a severe consequence stemming from his addiction.
You will have to do one thing or the other or continue the suffering.
He will suffer from the guilt, & shame. But he won't stop because he will always underestimate how much this hurts you as long as you stay with him.
You will suffer because you will never be able to love him enough, or care for him enough, to get him to stop, & it will continue to "Drive you crazy".
Best of Luck!
2006-11-27 14:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how you look at it, it can be very normal or very abnormal. A lot of Health Professionals now-a-days are chocking it up as porn addiction and perscribe them meds. But on a personal note, I would tell him that it bothered me. Don't demand it to stop otherwise it can become a thrill to him to "sneak" for it. If he does not honor your wishes of stopping on his own, then suggest a termination of your relationship. This can tend to be a wake up call, but not always a solution to the problem.
If you believe that he has a true Porn Addiction, there are many therapists that you can get to meet with him. Just make sure that his insurance covers them first.
2006-11-27 14:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a either a jealousy issue or a clash in values. Either way you need to look within yourself and ask what is important to you and what you can live with. Trying to force him to change will probably cause him to hide what he's doing from you.
(Note: There is nothing inherently unhealthy about viewing porn unless it becomes an obsession. 200 pictures probably wouldn't qualify as an obsession yet.)
2006-11-27 14:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by DarkWolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing here, how can people tell you to change and accept it when they are looking at women who you cant be. Only plastic surgery, tanning, no stretch marks from having there kids, on dont forget the pics are of younger girls. How can women compete with that. Men need to pay more attention to you and you wont have all of this doubt!!
2006-11-27 16:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by irene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By definition...Guys are porn adicts. That's all they think about.
This may ease your mind a bit...
To guys, women are like cars…
Guys will get the one that they REALLY want. We admire others as they pass by. We'll even look up different models on the web or magazines. We imagine what it would be like driving others. We even sometimes miss the good times and bad of previous ones. We can even pay money to test drive others (eww). BUT…We will NEVER give up or replace the one that we have and love.
2006-11-27 14:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
MMMMMMMMMM WHATS RIGHT WHATS WRONG?
What one person feels is not the same for someone else.
there,s nothing wrong with a bit of porn in a relationship @ all.
I suggest you download a few pictures of your own of men with real BIG co_ks & LOOK @ THEM WHILE HES AROUND & SEE WHAT HIS REACTION IS.
If he does,nt like it then tell him to stop or your gonna do 1
2006-11-27 14:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you need? A personal invitation to kick this freak to the curb? You can do it. He'll never notice. Stop letting this drive you crazy. It is not going to stop and things could get worse. Get out now, Just do it.
2006-11-27 14:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to him about it and how it makes you feel. Make compromises with him about it (reasonable compromises). If he doesn't want to listen and you don't want to put up with it then maybe you should rethink your relationship. ( yes most guys look at lots of porn, No you don't need to know about it. He has stopped caring what you think maybe? Bad sign?)
2006-11-27 14:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ben V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps when he acquires a bit more maturity it wont be so dominate. However, I'd say it's time to let him know how you feel, with a fond adios. Why stay with someone who drives you crazy???
2006-11-27 14:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋