ok so im 17 & engaged..my fiance & i JUST found out last night that im pregnant. we want 2 tell our parents soon but we dont know when to. should we tell ASAP or wait a few weeks or what? also after we tell them then how long should we wait to tell our friends & other family members. i just dont want to tell to early & then have problems with the pregnancy.
2006-11-27 06:03:05 · 20 answers · asked by *Dani* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the daddy has fully accepted his duty (he has a daughter already from a past relationship) thnx all 4 the answers so far
2006-11-27 06:16:00 · update #1
the wedding is as soon as i get my GED & b4 i start college..but itll be hard with a baby so i have 2 do online college & i cant do wut i wanna do until the child is a little older...so the wedding should be in march but idk yet
2006-11-27 06:24:57 · update #2
i REFUSE 2 have an abortion & as 4 adoption...well...lets just say i grew up fast, found my soul mate really soon, & NEVER have regrets...its impossible 4 me...i have never had a regret & never will bc wut happens 2 me & wut i do has made me who i am 2day & i love who i am...thnx tho..but adoption & abortion are NOT options...honestly...i want a baby & now that im pregnant im so happy & scared & wanna tell everyone bc its a wondeful thing! but ill tell my rents now & wait 2 tell friends until later...i think
2006-11-27 06:29:15 · update #3
i think it would be wise to wait a few weeks before you tell your family. make sure you really are pregnant by goin to the dr. then when you're done with your first trimester then you can start telling friends and stuff. that way if something does happen you won't have to tell people the bad news.
2006-11-27 06:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! You are only 17 years old! I am 33 years old and my husband and I are desperately trying to get pregnant. I would never had dreamed of getting pregnant in my teens and in my 20's. In my 20's I completed 3 years of college with great marks. After graduating college I travelled all around the world and have the best time of my life. Once I had completed my travels and having wonderful experiences I had decided that now I wanted to try something different...falling in love with my soul mate, and now completing that, my new experience is motherhood. You have your whole life ahead of you to do so many great things. Don't let yourself have regrets...please...please think about what you are about to do.
2006-11-27 06:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's up to you. I've been pregnant 3x and had 2 miscarraiges. I didn't wait to tell people because for me, it helped to know that there was a support network after my losses. It would have been a lot weirder for me to tell people after the fact of my losses if I'd never told them about being pregnant in the first place - and for me, I needed to talk about it. But some people like to keep that stuff to themselves. In all likelihood, your pregnancy should go just fine - enjoy it and go with what you feel is right for you.
2006-11-27 06:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard (and we waited) to tell after the first trimester. That's when most of the risks are passed.
My suggestion...Have your fiance join the US Air Force. No extra duty, no deployment, all medical is paid for, and school is paid for. You don't pay anything. Check it out.
2006-11-27 06:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people tell their immediate family as soon as they know (parents/siblings). For friends, the general rule is after three months as the first trimester is when the majority of miscarriages happens.
Congrats.
2006-11-27 06:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doctors say to wait until after the first tri mester which i think is 12 weeks. Those are the most sensitive weeks in pregnancy. After that its more unlikely anything could happen
2006-11-27 06:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Yellowtulips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell them just as soon as you happen to read my message. Your parents need to know soon so that they can get over the shock faster, and learn that you made this decision. If you want their support, it's their duties as parents to love and understand you, even if they don't understand why you did this. I'm 17, just like you and I'd tell my dad!
2006-11-27 06:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Christina M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about having problems or when the right time to tell people is. You have enough to worry about. Sounds like you are nervous - Not that surprising at all! If ya feeling telling people - shout it out loud! Congrats and goodluck!
2006-11-27 06:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by BlankProfile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather tell sooner than later because if there were problems with the pregnancy, you'd have someone to be there for you. This is (hopefully) good news, and your family and friends would want to be in on it to share the joy.
2006-11-27 06:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by pzratnog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically it's up to you. I would tell my parents right when I found out and than wait about 3 months to tell my other family and my friends. Congrats.
2006-11-27 06:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋