Has anyone here ever felt so insecure, that it interferes with thier life? I feel like everyone is judging me all the time and I am starting to miss out on things because I don't feel I have the confidence. Although, I have gotton a lot better over the last few years, when I made a lot of good friends when I moved to Sixth Form and then Uni. Anyone got any tips for overcoming lack of confidence and insecurity?
2006-11-27 05:57:29 · 11 answers · asked by Carrie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am very insecure and have been for a very long time. The one thing I can advise is to talk about your problems. There is help out there if you ask for it - speak to your GP if you'd like to talk to someone professional.
Take care x
2006-11-27 06:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what sixth form or uni is. So beyond that-I used to have so much anxiety that I got agoraphobic (almost would not leave the inside of my home) this was related to low self-esteem. As soon as I got a good job, I was OK and my self esteem soared. The only place that you will find self esteem is in your SELF. PLEASE do not get into a relationship trying to get to "feel good" about yourself through someone else. You will end up being used and worse off than when you started. Work on YOU and YOUR life and I promise the rest will fall into place
2006-11-27 14:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you got to remember is, see all those hugely self confident people out there, forget it, its just an act. their just like you, everyone has insecurities,they are just good at hiding it, people i have got to know, who seem to be so full of confidence, are just as shy and insecure. don't try and impress people, be yourself, soon age and experience will be on your side. just stop worrying. listen to people, theres no need to be a great talker, people will love you if you just listen and nod, ask a few questions now and then they,ll go away thinking what a great person you are. No one is judging you, everyone is too busy thinking of themselves and what impression their making. my dad was shy right up until he died, and everyone thought he was a great guy. it takes all sorts, not everyone can be the life and soul of the party, they can get a bit boring and over the top,, best of luck
2006-11-27 14:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by valda54 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this might sound a bit biased but it worked for me. I'm a Christian guy which means I believe in God and follow Him in my life. I can remember a time where I just wanted to put a gun to my head and end it all. I hated my life! I was angry all the time, I hated who I was, what I looked like, and I always worried what people thought of me. When I got older, I found Jesus. You know, a lot of this might be hard to process right now and I don't know how much "religious" background you have. But I'm not going to preach to you. I just want you to know that even when we have no one else in this world to turn to, no family, or friends, or anyone, that God is our best friend and He takes us from every walk of life. If you want more detailed answers about God, feel free to email me. chrisbow22@gmail.com I hope this helped, even a little bit. I hope you feel better.
2006-11-27 14:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already achieved so much by going to Uni that you should be really proud of yourself just for that. Don't worry about feeling insecure - the more you worry the worse it could get. Chill and give yourself a break.
2006-11-27 14:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by qurm_kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at your age everyone is feeling kike this just some cover up better how they feel. try and develop a sense of humour and lighten up don.t think about yourself so much and get out there with a smile on your face and chat and mix with people. the more you mix the more your confidence will grow.don't stay in and brood you will only feel worse .take every day as it comes and you will be fine
2006-11-27 15:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by jinx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all feel insecure in one way or another but we usually get hold of ourselves and try by all means to blend to the best of our ability to our surroundings. The best way to overcome this is to join a reading group, not only will you meet new friends but through participating in discussions, you may end up being popular, that is if you really grasp what you read. Try it, it helps!
2006-11-27 15:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by marizani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll get better as you get older the more you learn in life the more experiences you have your self confidence grows. at the moment you're still learning to stand on your own two feet and learning to trust people and to mix with others. its all a learning progress, you may never be super confident and be life and soul of the party but you will learn to fit in and mix with people who have the same interests as you. you need to find your own style and comfy in your own skin, people have enough insecurity's of there own so stop worrying about what people think about you and remember other people have their own worries so hold your head up high and just take things as they come and take each day as it comes too.
2006-11-27 14:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i'm beign OP pardon but I think sometimes we need prayers regards to matter like that because the devil brings that to ruin on life and future. it takes you farther than you can take . Get close to friends and best with God
Cheers!!!
2006-11-27 14:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by ELIZABETH KING 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love who you are. Believe that you can do anything if you put your mind to it. I felt like that before but you have to love who you are first and be comfortable about who you are. Sometimes past incidents make you insecure. Let your past be your past if that is the case.
2006-11-27 14:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by inquistive275 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋