I am 5 months pregnant and worried for our future. I know that he loves me, but I found "searches" and evidence of his browsing gay porn sites when I have been sleeping. (Being 5 months pregnant I need more sleep, so I go to bed at 9-10pm and he stays up until perhaps 3am.) Is this just curiosity? "Measuring up" against other males, or what? Is he secretly on the "down low"? We are still being "intimate" but not as much due to my condition. It is alright if he turns up being gay or bi, but I do not want to pursue a relationship with him if he is bisexual, because I am not interested in the possibility of him cheating or "getting ideas" because I won't "bounce back" to my former glory right after the baby comes. I have told him that I am willing to discuss this with him when he is ready and I want him to be honest with me, but I had caught him before and talked to him about this... so he knows it bothers me but he continues. Is this his curiosity or a real problem?
2006-11-27 05:51:54 · 15 answers · asked by nehuntress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He also looks at pictures of straight porn too, I didn't point that out as well... we are an interracial couple... I am white, he is black. He seems very sure of his sexuality and he acts as if this shouldn't bother me when I had brought it up, having denied it before. I am beginning to think that he is a closet homosexual instead of bisexual. Also, he knows that I have been cheated on by my ex husband and had promised to not hurt me (yes, I know, you're thinking it's naive to believe that, but still) I am upset and don't like the idea of this child not having a father but adoption is not an option for me and this child was conceived in love, even if I do not want him to be "with me" after this all goes down, I do want this child to have a father. It's just bizarre. Should I be understanding or kick him out?
2006-11-27 06:10:56 · update #1
Also, he does not have access to transportation, as he does not drive. (He has no license.) I drive him to and from work and I stay at home with my children from a previous marriage.
2006-11-27 06:14:00 · update #2
Yes he's gay or bisexual. He will NOT change. If you chose to have sex with him, make sure you are protected. You also need to have yourself tested right now. If you chose to keep the relationship with him, you need to understand that you will never be his soulmate or first love. At best you are window dressing to fool the rest of the world if and/or until he comes out of the closet.
2006-11-27 06:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 06:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as a 'straight' guy having gay curiosities. A guy is one or the other.
Obviously, he's not going to be honest. It's definitely a REAL problem.
I suggest you move on and cut your losses before you waste anymore time and resources and then you have a child to try to explain why he/she has 2 mommies.
There's someone out there that will be in love with you for who you are and not have any (secret) loves.
2006-11-27 06:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight men are not curious about gay porn.
Ask yourself this -- are you interested in looking at lesbian porn? Would you ever find yourself interested in doing so unless you were interested in women? I think not. Because you're not bisexual.
He could measure himself by looking at straight porn. And curiosity could be satisifed with a quick look. But regular looking at gay porn indicates a level of interest/fantasy/need that you cannot satisfy. You need to be honest with him and he needs to be honest with you.
BTW-- His lack of transportation is not your problem and not a reason to stay together. He can call a taxi on his way out the door.
2006-11-27 06:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either bi or gay. No straight guy is interested in browsing these sites as there's nothing about them that appeal to a complately heterosexual male. You seem to be pretty calm and have a good head on your shoulders. Stay calm and talk to him. Do what's best for the baby.
2006-11-27 05:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, as long as he's not completely gay and in denial, I'd say you got lucky, girl!!! *throws confetti* Do you know what I would give to find a nice bi boyfriend I could watch M/M porn with?
2016-05-23 12:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I don't know. Guess it could be curiousity, but regardless if it bothers you and he knows it, then he may not be the guy for you.
So, whetehr he is gay or not he either needs to stop or you need to move on.
Good luck!
2006-11-27 05:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by BlankProfile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive never heard of a straight guy who is not grossed out at gays kissing or look at gay porn for that matter. he's bi. definitely.
2006-11-27 05:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love masterbating to interracial gay porn I am bisexual guy I am proud to be bisexual guy and I am pansexual guy to
2016-08-31 09:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a fudge packer all the way!! Have you ever seen the movie Broke Back Mountain??? Only he knows for sure.... talk to him
2006-11-27 06:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by laviniablue 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋