Men, Your views on child support.?

Question

My dad took me and my sister when he got devoriced, no help from anyone..... Do you think child support is just a way for women to get money???

Answer 1

My opion on child support: Is if you need aid from the other parent to support the child. But the other spouse be it male or female doesn't; then the child should be in the custody of the parent fit to take care of them. Child support is left over from the old days of women staying at home and being a house wife was a career. Now days women work and have careers they shouldn't get child support and if they need it. The courts if the father is fit should allow him Custodial Custody of the children. Some women make a career of having children which is why the government will only let them be paid for 6 children.

Answer 2

Sorry I'm not a man, but I had to put my two cents in. I think child support can be good and bad. I have a 5 year old and her dad has done nothing financially to help but still wants to be considered her father. For that, I say he should pay child support. The money would go to her schooling (now and in a college fund for later). I've done as best I can for my daughter with the money I have, all I ask is he either acts like a dad and helps out financially or goes away and leaves us alone. This limbo stuff isn't fair to me or my daughter. Personally I would take full custody of my daughter over his money, but that's me.

Some people use the money for the right reasons, while others are greedy. I think it all depends on the people and their situations.

Answer 3

Here in America, when the government wants extra money, they raise the tax on tobacco. One of the troubles is that there are no abortion rights for men. This could easily be fixed by giving a man the option to opt out within the first few trimesters, or if he's never informed of the pregnancy, he should be legally considered an unwilling father and then the choice of going to term will be an informed choice for the woman. After the man has had this option, then the responsibility will be real and concrete cause he'll have made a choice, and he should be required to at least make support payments. I don't have any kids, except an outside chance that a girl I lost contact with who may have given it up without telling me... if I did have one I'd make sure I had at least joint custody because I would raise them to rule the world. Some dudes don't care if their offspring dominate or not. It's just as well I guess, the better for mine.

Answer 4

It is a necessary thing but it must be set up on a case by case basis. There currently is a formula used no matter the situation and that is bogus. If the person with the children is remarried or living with someone who shares the expenses, then that kind of thing needs to be looked at. Also, how and where the money is spent should be looked at or reported regularly. Too many people, mainly women, give this program a bad name by using the money for themselves instead of the kids. Those women/men make it worse for all the women/men who really need it and use it responsibly.

Answer 5

It depends. I think some women use it for themselves.

There certainly is little accountability in the CS system for those receiving the money.

I know my ex-wife could not enjoy her standard of living without my CS contribution. She makes about $20K/year and lives in an apartment that is $1250/month, plus has a $300+/month car payment.

She doesn't feed our girl, but has meals at her parents.

She is very dependent on the $18K/year she gets in child support.

I don't want to deprive my daughter of my lifestyle, and really believe she would probably be better off with a faithful father than an unfaithful mother.

Simply by virtue of being a SAHM, and lying about why she wanted to leave the home, she is the primary custodian.

I was advised legally, that unless she was an axe-murderer, it didn't matter if I was a better parent, she spent more time with mom, and the courts are all about keeping the status quo.

I'd be happy to support my daughter without the financial contribution of my ex, and let her see her every other weekend, like she wants me to be happy with, and one day every other week as well.

But, she "needs" that money, so she is going to fight to maintain primary custody becuase the pay is too good.

I suspect I'm like a lot of fathers who would love to have our children everyday, we just want our cheating ex-spouses out of lives and out of our wallets.

We have to give money to a woman we can't trust, and no-one is watching them to ensure they are not using the money to run off to Key West with the guy they had their affair with.

The system is broken in many cases.

Answer 6

If the money is used for the child and the child gets to spend time with that parent it's fine. When the parent receiving the support is travelling with 20% of tax free money and the child is being neglected then I have a big problem with it, wouldn't you?

Answer 7

if your're worried about how your child support is being spent on your children, then refrain from giving her/him cash.have her/him make a list of the childrens needs everymonth then provide them. always keep the reciepts. if they're in priv sch etc., have them send you a copy of the tuition bill. it works for some people but not all. most people, when they chose this route, not only do they know where the money goes, but they also find it costs them more. now a days, men and women are getting locked up and made examples of when they choose not to support their children. the money that is used for support for children is not the parents money that has custody of them. it belongs to that child or children. some people put that money into college funds. my mother never recieved a dime for me or any of my siblings. she should have. it was her right, but then it was her right not to. talk to your parents about it.

Answer 8

I know u think the child support is money spending for us women, but when i took my x to court. I didnt want the money for me. I could have gotten alimony, but i didnt.. Only thing i care about is him taking care of his son.. The money i get goes to daycare every month otherwise i wouldnt be able to pay on my own.. I dont blow my sons money and yes i know that some women do and thats them, but i know whats right..

Answer 9

It depends on the person - as in my case she uses it because she is too lazy to work and keeps wanting more. I do not believe (anymore) that all women are like that. I do know of other women that take the money very seriously and track what it goes for and it ONLY is used for the childrens affairs.

Answer 10

Yes it is JUST FOR WOMEN.....

Women feel it is their right to get money from men and will even have children to get child support....

Look up the facts on how recently as the economy is doing bad, the number of out of wed lock child births has sky rocketed....

I have known women to actually HUNT for men with good jobs to have their babies....

So let this be a lesson to you if your a male....