my ex is over 35K in arrears on child support AND (get this it's almost funny) fighting me for SOLE custody of our daughter whom he has made no effort to see in over 5 years! Normally I'd have let the CS situation go but he's costing me a TON of legal fees & that is impacting what I am able to do for our dauther - thus I think it's appropriate at this time to go after the arrerars. The OAG says they may not be able to get the arrears because he claims I have hidden our daughter from him & denied him visitation. NOT true! He has not TRIED to get visitation but is making these wild claims that he came to our home & I denied him! He's NUTS! His claims are 100% false but how do I PROVE it??? He has never as much as called our daughter to wish a happy birthday or sent a card or anything! But I can't PROVE that either. Apparently his new wife is buying his BS sob story & helping him with the legal fees.
Anyway, have any of you had any luck with the child support collection agencies?
2006-11-27 05:41:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been where you are with my daughter and her father and his new wife. Thanks be to God that he isn't trying to get custody of her as of yet not that I know of anyway. His new wife wants to be my daughter's new mother but I've never met the woman so I know nothing about her. Whenever you can get proof that he is not doing anything then you better cause he seems like a low down dirty parent. What I did was started writing down everyday that my daughter's sperm donor would call, how long they talked, recorded it on the answering machine, number of times he attempted to visit her while he was in town, and things to that nature. It will come in handy if we ever go to court just dot everything down on your calendar. There is your proof when court time comes and he can't deny anything cause you will have your proof. I pray that it works out for you but just know this: there is no way that he can get sole custody of his daughter and he hasn't once sent her a single thing. Oh yes, when or if he sends anything keep it in a separate box and if he gives her any money put it in a money order and keep it for your records. You don't want to spend it again proof of what he isn't doing for his daughter. God Bless you
2006-11-27 05:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually my dad and mom have gone through the same thing. The proof is in your daughter though, you must rely on her word and constantly tell her that if her father wanted to see her than she would. My father has gone through a child support agency because my mother owed +$10k in child support. It worked as well, she went to jail (I'm not sure if the laws vary stately but I live in Michigan and the maximum amount owed is 10k before they put someone in jail). Depending on how old your daughter is, I would have her testify for you; children can be one of the most crucial witnesses in cases like these. Nonetheless, I doubt he's going to get sole custody unless you're proven to be an unfit mother.
2006-11-27 05:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rika Ishikawa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They work if you get the right one. They check all his background for hidden purchases and money. If you have an order for child support the company will work on it right away. If you don't have a child support order, you will have to go to court to get one.
The child support companies will take a big part of your money once the checks start coming.
Find another attorney if he feels you can't get child support.
Good luck
2006-11-27 05:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they simply assemble if the non-custodial be sure will pay them. they seem to be a team business corporation and that i'm unable to believe you may particularly provide them a below take your ex to court docket. If he ignores their calls, you nonetheless get not something. you may desire to make an appointment to bypass into your community cs workplace to communicate your case or greater advantageous yet walk in, Tuesday and Thursday are walk-in days.. improve hell and tell them you pick a court docket listening to. even nonetheless you won't get money as we talk, he will lose his license and if he would not seem they'll positioned out a warrant for his arrest and he will would desire to pay a writ to the courts to get the warrant vacated. the money he will pay to save his sorry butt will bypass to you. human beings act while their very own priviledges are jeopordized. end sitting around waiting and take action. not with the aid of giving some business corporation your youngster's help money yet doing it the criminal way. you have rights and would desire to behave on them.. and because you say he brags approximately making a residing, be certain which you do provide toddler help his employers call. they'll positioned a court docket order with the aid of to deduct the money from his paycheck and are available tax time, you will get his refund examine to conceal the arrears he owes your toddler.
2016-10-13 05:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by dudik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some friends of mine at work have tried these agencies and they said it ended up costing them more money and to no avail they never got their child support that was owed they said the agency told them they could never find the person (parent ) at the address given yet when i went there to pick up someones child from there the parent (that owed the support ) was there . it is a ripoff stay away from them. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-27 05:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family services will set that up and the checks will go from him to the government and then on to you.
And not only you have to prove what you say, he has to also!
2006-11-27 05:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋