my boyfriend left me a week ago we have 1 baby of 2 and iam 5 weeks pregnant.he left because he is infactuated with another girl,if they get together i dont thin =k it will work,i miss him and want my family back what do i do
2006-11-27 05:29:34 · 22 answers · asked by cheekychopz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he will come back sooner than later.
:> peace
.
2006-11-30 15:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off how old are you and if you have been with this guy for 4 years and have one child with him why aren't you married yet? OK now that I got that outta the way. Don't wait on his sorry *** to come back. Take his *** to court and get child support and he is forced to pay child support on that child and the unborn child when it is born. Most courts in America will order a paternity test so if you didn't have sex with anyone else that should not be a problem. But don't sit around waiting on him to come back. You have asked this same question 4 times and I don't think you are getting the answer you want. I think you want someone to tell you to take his *** back but the honest truth is that he left you honey. He aint coming back and you just need to move on.
2006-11-27 13:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by pandiebear17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as long as you are willing to take this loser back, you will continue to have this kind of drama in your life. If he is such a creep that he would leave you with a baby and while you are 5 weeks pregnant, he wil do so again.
I am sure you correct that it won't work out with this new chick, but this doesn't mean you should take him back. He is selfish, childish, and too immature to be a good mate to you.
Move on and from now on, don't make any more babies with men you aren't married to and sure about for the long haul. Use condoms, spermicide, and birth control pills.
PS Make sure you get child support from this jerk, so get to work on getting a court order as soon as possible. He is financially responsible for these children until they turn 18, and he is required to turn over a portion of his paycheck to you until then.
2006-11-27 13:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by EmLa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are caught in a vicious cycle. He left you for another girl more than likely he will keep moving on after her too. Don't have anymore after the second one is born. Love them, take care of them and raise them as best as you can. Don't ever let any man take the place of your children. Your children should come first from now on.
2006-11-27 13:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force a man too be with you, especially if there is another women involved that he is in love with. What you have to do is move on and find another man who will respect and love you and be devoted to you.
Why would you want to be with a man that has other feelings for another women and abandones you with a baby in your belly and your have 1 child. He is no good and God does not like ugly.. What comes around goes around.. Good Luck to you.. Believe me there is another man out there for you...
2006-11-27 13:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you miss him... and even love him... but the truth is that he is beyond a jerk for leaving you just because he is infatuated with someone else. Even though I cannot judge him, what kind of person has the audacity to leave his pregnant girlfriend like that? I don't know you, but I don't think that you deserve this... it's hard but you should move on to something better.
2006-11-27 13:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by purringout 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want him back. If he leaves you when you are pregnant he is not worth having around. DO take him to court and get an order for child support. Have the court set it up so the money is garnished directly out of his paychecks. Many states do this now to cut down on the amount of deadbeats.
2006-11-27 13:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that you had a baby and then got pregnant again before getting your boyfriend to commit to marriage. Like someone answered before he has no legal obligation to you, just to the babies he made with you. I hope you find someone who wants to be a father and will marry you before having babies with you. Good luck and all the best.
2006-11-27 13:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this.
HOnestly, get on with your life. Don't try to get him back or pine away for him. Taking him back just tells him that his behaviour is o.k. If he's that willing to give up his family for an 'infatuation' then he's just not that into you and why take him back so he can do this to you again (and again and again...). Respect yourself and others will too.
2006-11-27 14:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not have babies with your boyfriend.... He's not your husband, he doesnt owe you anything except child support. He ahs absolutely no contractual obligation to you. Only monitary duties to his children.
Its harsh but its true. If he wouldnt commit to you by marriage, why would be commit to something even bigger like being a family and having kids?
I know it hurts, but I think you need to get over it and start looking for a real man who wants a real family, and a wife.
2006-11-27 13:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need professional help, if not for yourself for the sake of your child, children and unborn child. Your family is with you. The father of the children cares nothing about family. Find the help you need now! Forget about letting him come back, he is nothing to you except extra baggage!
2006-11-27 13:34:17 · answer #11 · answered by KIB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋