my husband is out of the country and I like to call him because i miss him so much. Eventhough i call him everyday he hardly calls me. When i call him he says his busy. He is working out of the country. I always get on him for not calling me, and he tells me that he is working hard for our future and the childrens future. he says i need to give him more support instead of getting mad about little things like not calling me. What can i do for him to realize how much i love him and for him to call me?
2006-11-27 05:24:26 · 28 answers · asked by tropic f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop calling him. Give him some time to miss you and your phone calls. If he has alot on his mind, you may be distracting him or making it harder for him to be away from you and the kids.
He may also wonder why you have stopped calling and may realize that you could move on if he does not extend some effort to show you that he cares.
I would not call him again, I would wait and see how long it takes him to call you. If he really is busy, sooner or later he will still call. If he don't really want you anymore, you will know and be able to move on to someone that you do deserve.
2006-11-27 05:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Respect your husband while he is working,most husbands put their Job first and foremost ,while on the job, and don't like to be interrupted,because his wife cannot understand the commitment the husband has for his job.I know it's hard for us women to understand this at times, but that's just the way God made most men out to be.A man's job is 60 to 70% of who he is,then he is a husband and father with the remaining 30 to 40% that's left of him.Stop calling,he will notice,it might take a few day's,stir him up and make him wonder if you are missing him.I know it's hard not to cling when your man isn't clinging back,and you love him.But if you want him to miss you at all,and love and respect you back,you have to back off and become more independent of him,he will notice the change,if he cares enough about you he will start pursuing you so as not to let you slip away, if he doesn't then try to heal your broken heart and move on before wasting years on trying not to lose this man's love you didn't have in the first place.You have nothing to lose ,only something to gain.So either way Go for it and give it a try.I wish you the best of luck been there that's why I feel like I'm right about this.Ill be praying for you.
2006-11-27 06:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are obviously different. Women consider intimacy to be talking, sharing feelings, etc. Women often call their other female friends for
"no particular reason, just to talk".
When men make a phone call, the vast majority of the time it is to convery very specific information with the least amount of words possible. When was the last time you observed your husband calling one of his friends just to chat it up? Conversation for him is a means to an end.
Like everyone else on here has said, leave him alone.
He is obviously stressed out and he isn't deriving any comfort from your calling all the time, making all these calls is at this point a selfish act.
If you do the opposite, it will show him that you do love and respect and TRUST him.
2006-11-27 05:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by madcatlover7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that to a man when a woman calls him so much, he thinks she is checking up on him. He might be working very hard and can't be distracted during the day. Maybe you should call him in the evening before going to bed and go over the days activities with him. I understand you miss him very much but smothering him isn't going to help your situation. Inform him that it hurts you when he doesn't call you, but don't get angry about it. Our feelings are so different from mens. Just inform him that it's different for you and you will give him some more space. He really needs to focus. Of course, if he has a problem with you calling at the end of the day, then you need to inform him that you believe there is a problem and either a marriage counselor is in order, or a divorce attorney. Good luck and GOD bless.
2006-11-27 05:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i can understand why your husband gets angry, my husband isn't out of the country but during the day i stay home with are three kids and he works two jobs so for some reason he calls me all the time and it is always when i am doing something. It is very frustrating so stop calling him as much you never give him a chance to call you and you probally make him miss you more with your calling and how is he going to get his work done to come home to you if he is always on his phone.
2006-11-27 05:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound pretty needy and bored. Get a hobby honey, stop calling your husband all the time and once you STOP calling him all the time and needing to talk to him all day long while he is trying to work, he will start calling you when he isn't so busy. My husband was the same way and it is irritating when you are trying to work and achieve certain things at work while your spouse is calling you for nothing in particular but to hear your voice. It is sweet and all but calling soemone four or five times throughout the day is annoying. Men don't like clingy women. Get it? Good luck honey.
2006-11-27 05:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're calling him every day!?!? The more you spend on the phone calls, the longer he'll need to work overseas to secure your future. Do as he wishes, stop calling daily. Concentrate on what you need to be doing here. If you have children, then you should have no time left at the end of the day. Since your life is comparable to a single mom. Which says, your time is consumed with your full schedule as well as theirs. That doesnt allow time for missing him. He's working hard, and you should be as well. It's called a team effort!
2006-11-27 05:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is working out of the country then I believe a call once a day is certainly in order. He should be flattered that you care enough to call. Sounds a little fishy that he would get at all irritated. I would probably do what the others said and not call for a day or two and let him wonder what YOU are doing.
2006-11-27 05:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by haditforgood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the meantime, stop calling him, why not text him. Make him miss you. Make him realize how important your call is. And also try understand his side. Maybe he's just to busy and in times you called him, he's being distracted. Don't look at the wrong side of why he didn't called you like you do. Maybe he's the kind of person that keeps his self busy so that he cant be lonely because as you've said he's on the other country and I know he also misses you now that you've said you also do have kids.
2006-11-27 05:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by aNGie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just stop calling him. He's probably under alot of stress being in this other country and he just wants to get it over with. Men don't need to talk on the phone and communicate with their woman as much as women do with their man. That doesn't mean we don't love you any less. The more you call him and bug him about not calling, the more agitated he will get and the less he will want to talk to you. Even though you're in two different countries, give him a little 'breathing room' and stop calling every single day.
2006-11-27 05:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by DJ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋