A husband that is sexually attracted to other women,or a hubby that is sexually involved with another woman?

Question

do they tend to be more sexual with their wife's,because of the sexual excitement of being with the other woman,or thinking about other women?Or is it just the oppisite,do they tend to have erection problem's because thinking or being with another woman makes them feel guilty, or desire their wife less,than what they normally would?It seems like the only time my husband desire's to be with me is when I know he recently got his self excited over another woman,other wise he has erection problem's and has very little desire for me.Even though I,am a sexually desireable woman.I'am thinking he does not desire me because of a or other women,or that is the only reason he does desire me when he does.I will greatly appreaciate any honest answer's from the men on this subject,very curious as to how another woman or thinking about other women affect's the sexual relationship with their wife's.THANKS GUYS AND WOMEN THAT WANT TO REPLY.

Answer 1

Different men are different. For me, thinking about other women isn't such a big deal as far as who the other woman is or how she looks or anything like that, because my wife is the sexiest woman alive to me. But, when another woman flirts with me it makes me feel attractive, which makes me want to have sex, which sends me to the sexiest woman I know... my wife. Why would I settle for less? But there can be a little bit of a feeling of "She has to flirt with me..." with my wife sometimes. When I get depressed, my wife can't convince me that she actually finds me attractive, which makes me feel worthless, and I don't want to "force myself" on her, so I end up having problems. For me, feeling wanted is a big part of wanting.

Some men actually aren't attracted to their wives. In that case, when they do get excited by another girl, some of them try to go home in order to stay honest, so to speak, others cheat.

Some men are attracted to their wives, but get so bogged down in the day to day that they loose the "spark." They get used to seeing their wife exactly the same every day, so they stop thinking of her sexually, but think of her almost as more of a sibling, and so need outside stimulation.

But everyone is different, so it's hard to say what's going on in your case.

Answer 2

I cant imagine a guy would need an outside source to foster attraction towards his wife, but have friends that talk like they do.
i don't think they would feel guilty, causing an issue though. I'm sure that if someone is thinking of other women then they really don't feel guilty.

I'm not an expert on erection issues (thankfully), but I would lean towards him probably being attracted to or involved with someone else. Sorry but that's my read.

Although on a positive note, my wife seems to have lost some sexual attraction over the last few years. I don't see any signs of someone else or an affair, so maybe its just something that happens to some people over time??

Answer 3

It's completely BIOLOGICAL for a man to look at other women. The difference is ACTING on it. We were not created to spend life with one woman and one woman alone. A ring and a piece of paper seal the deal, but cannot change the reality of "million years in the making." Men have a mental gene where they must spread their seed to avoid extinction. Women SHOULD have it, but don't seem to. The male is the dominant species, mentally FORCED to keep pro-creation alive, while the woman is given the physical ability to do so. Now, there is also a rule of fidelity. Just because he chemically and mentally knows right from wrong, there is a vast difference from looking and acting. A lot of men need variety, and unfortunately, I do not have the reasons for this but suggest that he needs to know all avenues of spreading his seed. Good luck to you on your find.

Answer 4

I have been married for 20 years and I have never fantasized about another woman when making love to my wife. She excites me enough. However, I can appreciate beauty and sexual appeal in other women. I just don't act on it. It is better if your husband is attracted to other women and makes love to you rather than his actually being sexually involved with another woman. That is cheating. I don't understand your husband's not desiring you over other women. Good communication with him is essential.

Answer 5

There is absolutley no logical explanation behind the phenomenon, but yes, males in this day and age generally wouldn't mind seeing two women go at it. Sex and attraction isn't a logical thing which is why it's best to stay away from the aformentioned two during rare moments of sobriety.

Answer 6

Some men need extra stimulation. Don't think of it being a question about him getting an erection. If he is attracted to you but just has problems with erection he could have some medical or physicological problems. Talk to him, ask him about it. It may be something that he needs to get a professinal opinion on.

Answer 7

It is the biology of men. If he sees another woman that he finds attractive then he will be more amorous towards you. If he has not been visually stimulated maybe he has a problem getting it up. It is the way men are. They need variety you would cringe at.

Answer 8

i'm a little confused, but guessing that this arousal comes from porn or fantasizing or something like that? i am hoping that he isn't cheating on you....
all i know is that my man is not allowed to look at porn at all.... that is how i avoid this problem, and if i caught him looking at porn and all that jazz it would be a deal breaker for my marriage.

the bible says that you can commit audultery in your mind... that is what porn is to me.

i know this probably isn't helpful for your situation, but i guess my point is that this does not seem right to me that only other women can arouse him... you are sexually desirable and deserve to have someone that makes you feel that way.