In the past, my step-sister thought I was liking her boyfriend and thinking I was getting together with him behind her back. After we discussed this and I let her know how I felt about her accusations, she just went about things like nothing was said. However, I am still pissed off and just want her to get on with her life. It's hard to just go back to the way things were after someone things you would do such a thing to them. Am I wrong or being mean?
2006-11-27 05:22:39 · 15 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actually, I'm the one who brought the issue to her because I could tell how she was acting.
2006-11-27 05:28:10 · update #1
To think like that she may be really insecure. Being mad at her for being insecure isn't really fair. Feel sorry for her.
She must not think much of herself if she thinks people close to her would do those things. Don't feel too hurt by it. She discussed it with you and believed you, that shows she must care.
2006-11-27 05:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings don't make you a bad person. They're just how you feel. It's how you act on your feelings that creates anything of a moral dilemma.
You are not required to let things go back to the way they were. If she (or you) feel the need to apologize the other should forgive -- but there is no moral requirement for a subsequent close relationship.
Dealing with anger is a very subjective thing. I deal with mine by mulling it over to myself and internalizing it. This won't work for everybody.
You need to deal with your anger in your own time and in your own way. Then make the next move based on how you interpret interaction with your step sister.
2006-11-27 13:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would express your feelings to your step sister. I would think she could have apologized. But you might be on the mature side then she is. You are neither wrong nor mean. She sounds insecure, especially since you are in a blended family. I would let it go but you can try talking to her about it. She might learn the proper way to express herself from you if you show her the way.
2006-11-27 13:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Deana S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had a concern and you discussed it and aired things out. It sounds like you need to get over it and get on with your life. Sometimes it's hard to trust people even if they have given you no reason not to trust. She might just have a hard time trusting people. At least she came to you with it.
2006-11-27 13:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by A Walker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong and ur not being mean. She's the one wrong and being mean, u brought the situation up to her and told her how u felt about the accusations. Shes the one wrong for not appreciating u being big enough to come up to her and say something about it. You did ur part, now its time for her to forgive and do hers.
2006-11-27 13:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are more hurt and dissapointed that she would think those things of you. You really do need to make the effort to get over it, it will come between the two of you and it can also eat you up inside too. Talk to someone you trust about it or go to a counselor.
2006-11-27 13:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has let it go as it sounds in your message maybe you should do the same...Your not mean being wrongly accused is not a pleasant thing to have happen.
2006-11-27 13:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to chill out and get over it.
At least you guys talked about it and didnt hold grudges against each other.
2006-11-27 13:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. any one who is accused of something they didn't do would feel that way.
2006-11-27 13:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Living & Learning 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope.. just ignore her because there's nothing else that you could do. you don't need someone like that in your life anyway.
2006-11-27 13:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by jjjjjjjjjjjjjj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋