So, so not happy with what I've got. Trying to change things but keep coming full circle. Is it just me or is anyone else so unhappy that they just don't want to be here anymore?
2006-11-27 05:19:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Bored, yes at times. So much where I don't want to be here anymore, no I don't let myself get to that state.
Here's the thing. Bordom is a state of mind. Being such you have control over it. The trick is are you really and I mean really willing to do the things to cause change in your life if your not happy with it. If the answer is no, that's ok, then you just need to learn to be happy with the things you do have. But if the answer is yes then you really need to figuer out what you need to do to cause the change you need. Sit down and write down the things you want to change. Then take some time and come up with what your going to do to change them. Then stick to the plan but be willing to alter the plan along the way if the change make sense but don't just drop it.
Example. You don't like your job.
Sit down and think through what is it you don't like about your job?
Is it the job itself or maybe the specific group of people your currently working with. If it's the job then what else can you do. Or are you willing to go back to school to learn something new? If it's the people, then is there another company you can try working for. Maybe in a different town.... But come up with a plan.
This is all just general stuff but you did not state specific problems so it has to be generic.
2006-11-27 05:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by John 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm very sad to hear you feel this way. Me,my life is amazing. I've been very lucky I must admit. That's not to say it has always been amazing. I've had some pretty bad times too I suppose. Try changing one thing at a time. Life is made up of a lot of aspects, work, relationships, finance, all sorts of stuff. Changing everything in one go is probably a bit a task, unless you decide to move to a completely different country (I did that) but that's not always an option so look at something you can change, maybe your job or your diet or your social life. One thing small things, change that. When you have that under control then look at the next thing.
All the best
2006-11-27 13:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you the things you want to hear, or I could be ruthlessly honest. I am a realist, so I am afraid I am going to be ruthless.
Life is boring. You are born, you procreate, you die, just like everything else in this and all universes.
BUT, life is also like taking LSD that you have some control over. The trip can be amazing, or it can be hell. The choice is yours. You want a more interesting life, take a walk outside, look up at the stars, be awed by what you see. Tomorrow, if it is raining, stand out in it and 'feel' the rain. 'Life' is beautiful, there is so much to experience.
2006-11-27 19:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Spoonraker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness comes not from getting what you don't have, it comes from wanting what you've got.
Obtaining things gives you external validation. Appreciating things you have obtained is more intrinsic value.
If you cannot be happy unless you are constantly obtaining things, then maybe your anxiety has manifested itself that way (sort of like OCD but not as rigid or ritualistic).
Some people become compulsive shoppers or compulsive spenders. "Retail Therapy" gives them a sense of power and control, and acts a release for their anxiety. Buying power releases endorphins and other feel-good chemicals, and gives them a "high."
Maybe you could focus on some of the things youhave that you use a lot (stereo, favorite purse, shoes that match everything, etc) and look at those things as Investments. Buying something and investing in something are two different animals. Next time you think of getting something, will it be an investment?
Another way to apprecaite what you have is to think about how many hours you would have to work to pay for it.
2006-11-27 14:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going through the answers you've just got for your question,one could figure out how much life is full with bored people. yes,many many of us feel the way you feel,satisfaction with life needs a real miracle from God. i can't even give an advice,however,all what we can do is keep on trying to search for happiness,even if it was in a beautiful flower or in the smell of morning coffee..good luck.
2006-11-27 16:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by sadflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bored is a state of being and thinking and if You think kind thoughts and out smart your self you will end up being happy and not bored and get a job or do something for the other people that need help and you will forget yourself,,,When one has too much time on their hands it leads to being bored,,,
2006-11-27 13:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me too, when i was 13 i dropped outta school cos of family problems and now 3 years later i know that my life aint gonna get any better since i cant even study for some gcse's to get a good job.
when i was 13 i thought of suicide and i ignored the thought of it but now they're back and they are much more harder to ignore.
i really dont wanna be here anymore.
2006-11-27 17:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change it for the better, try a vertical step instead of a horizontal one, in 2003 I left my job as a machine operator which I had done for 15 years, I'm now into my third year of a degree course at university, and life's great
2006-11-27 13:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Hendo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel you. I know sometimes life can be really hard on you and it seems the more you try the less you get to where you want to be. I really think there is more people out there than you know of, that are going thru something similar.
2006-11-27 13:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rainbow Brite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm unhappy and don't want to be here - but not because I am bored with life, but because I am depressed.
I'm sorry you are feeling so low, persevere with your changes, hopefully something will stick.
2006-11-27 13:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋