Bad Wife Vs. Good Wives?

Question

My hubby has made it clear to me that I am a bad wife at house cleaning compared to his previous two wives. They held down great paying jobs and cleaned apparently Miraculous. As to where he says my cleaning looks like an half *** and asks me why I am so Lazy in the cleaning Department. Since I don't know how to clean like Godess am I really that bad of a wife I have trie dthat stupid fly lady thing I just don't know things I do look clumsy and good advice I will so appreciate.

Yes my husband does some of the Chores take out trash sweep outside chores and he will go over anything I don't do good. I am also very disorganize which I been slowly decluttering and trying to organize and make the house a nice atmosphere for me as well as my son and him. He is not really harsh about it its just annoying I try hard and it seems like I fail.

Answer 1

I don't think this makes you bad or good.

A clean home is a legitimate need. There is nothing in stone that says you have to do that, but the two of you have to agree on how it will be done.

I'd tell him he is free to take on any chore that doesn't meet his standards.

How was his home before you got married? Was it very clean? If so, then yeah, he probably expects that and there is nothing wrong with wanting a very clean home.

Being a jerk about it is what is wrong.

Answer 2

Your his wife, not his maid. Myself, while my wife was at school this morning, I cleaned our living room and helped her with the dishes after she got home.

She does alot of cleaning around the house as well. SO your husband should be sharing the chores like cleaning. And as far as him saying that your a bad wife about cleaning is VERY disrespectful and makes me wonder if the treated his first 2 wives the same way about other things since he says they were good wives at cleaning the house. Sounds like he needs an attitude adjustment and learn how to treat women with respect.

Answer 3

IMO, when a wife works outside the home, the husband is EQUALLY responsible in making sure the house-work gets done. Who does he think he is ... royalty?

Make up a list, and divide all the house-hold duties between the two of you. Explain to him that this is the FAIR way to get things done. If he doesn't like the idea, too bad. Don't do HIS laundry, cook HIS meal, or any other thing that you have previously done for him ... on a daily basis. I can't believe a person would have such frikken nerve.

Answer 4

It's called hiring a maid. They aren't too pricy and that way he can't blame you. If he still makes it an issue I wouldn't put up with it anymore. But maids are great because you can choose how often they come and they do a really good job, just try to be at home when they come. And don't feel alone either. I suck in that department too but it doesn't mean you're any less of a women. He needs to understand your talents are in other departments.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

The fact that he is comparing you to his previous wives is just wrong and stupid in the first place. If my husband ever told me that, I'd tell him to get back with one of them then. Nobody is perfect, his first two wives weren't and you aren't either. It's not your job to always do all the cleaning. When he complains about your "half-a**ed" job, tell him to fix it. I've been with my boyfriend for four years now and I do the cleaning and laundry around here. If he ever complained about how I was doing things, I'd tell him that if he doesn't like the way I do things, then he should do it himself. That should shut the hubby up.

J

Answer 7

I have an aunt like that and walks around with a white glove just to make sure everytyhing is squeeky clean but she's a lousy bed buddy and cold as a fish.

Tell your husband to hire a maid your better in the other department.

Answer 8

Tell him to feel free to show you how everything should be done. When he has maintained the level he desires for a year then maybe you will entertain his complaints. As for comparing you to the ex wives well....Why are they the X's? Everyone is different. The next time he wants sex tell him you can't you're too busy cleaning. Just clean after yourself and leave his crap where he leaves them or designate it as trash. You'll be amazed how quick and clean the house gets when you start throwing sh*t away.

Answer 9

keeping an immaculately clean house does not make you a good wife! keeping a messy house does not make you a bad wife!

if you both have a job then he should have some responsibilites around the house too, you're not the only one making a mess so you shouldn't be the only one cleaning up

have a serious talk with him, there are probably other issues being masked by his mean comments

Answer 10

Seems to me like he is just trying to beat you down by constantly comparing you to his other wives, if they are so great, why is he not still with them????
I suggest you get to a counselor pretty darned fast, if you do need help with becoming organized, that can help, but it can also help you deal with your insecure, insensitive brute bully of a husband. Tell him if he don't like the way you do things, go find someone else! Bet nobody else would put up with his pompus butt for very long!