Ok..... if a girl gets raped(by someone she does not know) and ends up pregnant, do you think its okay then to get an abortion? Or should she give it up for adoption? I mean it IS still a baby from God...... but carrying a rapist's baby is hard to imagine also.... what do you think?
2006-11-27 05:00:36 · 27 answers · asked by Earls Gurl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I couldn't even begin to fathom what this person would feel like if she was raped and then found out she was pregnant, but what I do know is that God doesn't make mistakes. Sure, this was an awful event that will cause lasting memories of that terrible event. The man who raped her should be punished, not the baby. Like someone said before, that baby is a part of her, too. There are better options out there than abortion. Yes, I mean adoption. There are many couples out there in this world such as my wife and I who cannot have a baby. We have been married for 10 years and our 10 years of attempting to have a baby ended this year when she had to have a hysterectomy due to her medical problems. I know that keeping a baby that came out of a situation like this would be really hard, but I think I speak for anyone who can't have children and are trying to adopt a baby like my wife and I would say the same thing. It wouldn't matter if your child was fathered by a rapist or not, a baby is a baby and we would love to have the opportunity to adopt the child. Having said that, let me be perfectly clear in saying that I wouldn't try to talk this person into giving up her baby if she chose to keep it. That too would be wonderful.
I remember listening to a radio program where a woman was speaking against abortion. She spoke so adamantly against abortion that I had to stop and listen to the program. Come to find out this woman was aborted during a late term pregnancy and actually survived. She was given a second chance at life when her mother was just going to throw her away. Don't throw your baby away. There will always be people out there who would want to adopt him/her!
2006-11-27 06:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Abortion is a choice and and right that all woman have...however in this situation or in any situation I would not abort the fetus. I am not saying that it is wrong to have an abortion or anything like that...I don't believe that we have the right to tell other women what to do with their bodies. I would give the child up for adoption due to the simple fact that there are tons of families that want a child and can't have one and that would give he/she a good home. And I believe that every child is a gift from God and has a place and a purpose on this Earth.
2006-11-27 05:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by vcutheatre 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would not want 9 months of constant reminders that I was raped. Not to mention that your body would be forever changed afterwards, so you would have a life time memory of it.
It's not like you can just give a child up so easily... It's been growing inside of you for 9 months, it was kicking you and you playfully pressed against your stomach for months just waiting for the baby to react with a kick or a punch. You felt his or her hiccups inside of you for the past few months. You bonded with it - you think you can give it up and think that it's over after that? You are silly.
I've been pregnant with morning sickness every day of the pregnancy and I've given birth.
I have a hard time coming to terms with the memory of my labor as it is and I adore my daughter. I wouldn't do it again... Not without an epi at least... Why oh why didn't I get drugs for the pain...
I don't mean to come off harsh or unloving, but my labor left me traumatized and 6 months later, I still have anxiety attacks and can still feel every contraction, and every tare and rip. I would not wish that upon someone else just because they were raped.
If a child was meant to be, I don't think god would have allowed us the advancement that allows us to abort children.
Also, there are thousands of homeless children right now that are waiting to be adopted. Giving one more up is just one more that will go off to foster parents and may never have a decent life. It's sad, but it's true... Don't kid yourselves.
All of you rating responses - rate the response, don't be bias just because you are on the other side of the debate - that's just rude. Don't act so holier than thou.
2006-11-27 05:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jocelyn 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well I don't think this is a good answer, but what I would do is keep the baby (I know it will be very hard) and make the rapist pay the child support. Then he will learn a lesson not to rape anybody, and the rapist should also spend time in jail.
2006-11-27 05:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Pauly W 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Honestly--it's an opinion based question. We don't know the girl/woman. We don't know how strong she is. We don't know anything!
Of course it would be ideal to give the baby up for adoption. It's probably the best idea--but realistically without knowing the girl I cannot determine what's right for HER.
If the woman is religious or spiritual--I would advise adoption or even keeping the child if she could. If she is not it's pretty much up to her. God gave us all (Christians, Atheists, Muslims, Catholics, etc..) free will. It is her choice how to use that free will.
2006-11-27 05:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter if its a rapist baby, the baby is still apart of u. Thats what women who think about abortion forget about. It doesnt matter if u dont kno the babys daddy, or if u were raped, the baby is still yours. The baby is your blood, your child. Yes it'll be hard but abortion in that situation is still murder and a killing of your own.
2006-11-27 05:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that if the girl feels she wants an abortion then that is the best decision. Giving the baby up for adoption is a possibility but if she feels she cant carry a baby inside her for 40 weeks then no one can blame her for that. Also giving the baby up for adoption may mean that in 18years time the girl would have to go through more pain-full explanations.
2006-11-27 05:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by retardomc 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Yes, it is okay. But, it should be done ASAP & not late into the pregnancy. Personally, I don't believe that embryos have souls. I believe that in the early stages of pregnancy, the mother's body & the embryo are only the framework/foundation for a soul. I believe that once the pregnancy is considered a fetus, then the "baby" becomes a human, of Divine origin, with a soul. That's what I believe, anyway. It's better to have the abortion then to raise a child & reject, regret, or resent him/her for being the product of rape. Not to mention what the raped pregnant woman would have to go through.
2006-11-27 05:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Red 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I believe that most hospitals offer the day after pill to rape victims, so that this very dilemma would not even occur. However, beyond that, the baby is innocent...so I wouldn't want to kill the baby. Now the rapist...on the other hand...I wouldn't mind him being killed...
2006-11-27 05:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by whatever 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I would have the abortion. I couldn't see myself carrying a rapist's child. I am pregnant right now, and everytime I think about this baby I am carrying I think of my fiance' and I making our family. I would hate to be thinking about this awful tragedy of rape everytime I would think of the baby.
2006-11-27 05:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Aisha 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋