I had a recent break up with a girl of seven years and two children she's cheated on me four times... i've never cheated on her but i'm no saint either. she's having contact with a friend of ours that she has slept with. part of me wants to stay away and move on but most of me wants her back so badly. she says she needs her space but, i wonder if it's the other guy. they only contact by phone right now because he lives a few states away. she says they are just friends but, they did have sex before we moved home and separated. i'm so very hurt and confused on what choices i need to make. other than the cheating she was good to me but, the cheating hurts. please give me some good advice.
2006-11-27 04:57:18 · 11 answers · asked by laviniablue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You ever heard of Medea...well in her play she says be careful to not get lifetime expectaions mixed up with seasonale people. Some people just come into your life for a season meaning a short time and with in that short time teach you a lesson to last you a life time. If she says she needs space give her space because she will realize later that you never leave the one you love for the one you like cause the one you like will leave you for the one they love. When she realizes that she will come back. And if she does not everything happenes for a reason. I do not know who or what you believe in but God may be moving her out of your life for someone else to come and love you right and much harder than she did. TIME...Biggest enemy and best friend just let time handle it. Also weight the pros and the cons of the relationship if the good out weights the bad stay or try to work it out if it is the opposite leave it alone. I hope this answer helps.
2006-11-27 05:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me man...you are being a sucker and your attitude is going to get you no where. The fact you are such a pushover is the reason she cheated in the first place most likely.
You need to move on with your life. Look at her like a business acquantance because you have kids together. You should be cordial for their sake. Other than that, why would you have one ounce of respect or care for her. She does not give 2 craps for you.
2006-11-27 13:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings for her completly sometimes its hard to see the truth even when we know it! You have got to understand that even though you may love her there is still the point the she CHEATED on you sweetie! If you do get back with her then it will continue on and on and on till you finally fall apart. I think it is better for you to be away from her. I know things look hard now but give it some time. the right one will come along and you won't have all this confusion! Good Luck Babe
2006-11-27 13:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love the other things more than you hate her cheating. many relationships thrive when its not a secret. she has a reason for doing this, you do have a choice - you can stay and figure it out, or move on, but is sounds like you wont be able to just move on. i am curious about only one thing. if you accepted her behavior and actually supported all this with the impression you want to do eveything you can to make her happy, will she continue doing it.
2006-11-27 13:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by situatednut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need to be hit over the head with a brick? She doesn't RESPECT you or the relationship. She is completely selfish and wil always be selfish. Why should she be faithful to you when you have shown her that there aren't any consequences for her actions. She is an unfit mother. Keep yourself and your children as far away from her as possible.
2006-11-27 13:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on if she truly loved you she would have never cheated its time to find some one else or live the single life for awhile.
2006-11-27 13:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater
she's proven that to you 4 times over
why give her another chance to hurt you?
you deserve better, dump her sorry a$s and move on with your life
be strong for your children
2006-11-27 13:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel like you love her but if you're being hurt you need to move on once a cheater always a cheater you'll find someone that will respect you and love you ...........good luck
2006-11-27 13:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on that's the only thing you can do. I've never had a gf, but i've had email or penpal friends . suddenly everything ends and i feel bad, but just have to move on
2006-11-27 12:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by trobop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once she cheated its all over. its just a matter of time till she does it again and again. best way to get over her is a new girl !! one of her good friends always makes for sweet revenge!!
2006-11-27 13:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by chuck f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋