I was basicly waiting for her to come back for 7 months and I finally realized that's not going to happen and am cool with that.
The problem is I think of her all the time. I conciously redirect my attention to other things 99% of the time but the prob. another memory is always there.
It was my first time in love, and I am not looking for anyone right now. I know these things contribute.
Is there anything else besides staying busy and find someone else?
I do realize it's a lot more important to concentrate on where I'm going as opposed to where I've been.
2006-11-27 04:54:05 · 19 answers · asked by MeaCulpa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It took you 11 months to come to that realization ; it will take a long time for you to get over it. Keep doing the things that you are doing as it can only build you up. Time is the only thing that will help. Also, keep in mind that "break-up amnesia" kicks in and you easily forget the bad things that happened during the relationship and hold on to the good as though that's all there ever was. Try to remind yourself of those things when the memories become overwhelming. Time heals all things.
2006-11-27 05:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to me... do not let any of the negative comments get you down... I understand what your going thru... I too have thoughts of someone that I once with... I can't say for sure when these feeling for this person or if this feelings for this person will ever go away.. and I can't even say time will make things better, that is something someone tells ya .. cuz they can't think of logical thing to say.. all I am saying is that when you fall in love with someone... that might just stay with you forever........ there is not a soul in the world who can take this away for you... oh... the keeping busy... do other things.. well the busyness... did not do any good whatsoever... I just felt like I had to let you know...
2006-11-27 06:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a time issue you will always carry some thought of someone you have been with especially if married it will start
to hurt less over time. Whatever you do when your looking for someone new do not look for a look alike find someone the complete opposite of your ex replacing her will never work you must start new in all directions and when you find someone do not talk about your ex at all unless you want every lady you meet to walk away and never to call.
2006-11-27 05:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. I had an ex who did no longer take care of me the way i'd like. i certainly enjoyed him and it took me a while to recover from him, and then he would start up calling me and exhibiting up at my door, i exchange into indignant to work out him, like what the heck do you decide on now whilst i'm over you? I did omit him, yet our courting ended for a reason. 11 months is merely too late for attempting to restoration something.
2016-10-04 10:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would depend on how long the two of you were together. If not that long, then yes I would suggest the help of a therapist. If you were, I might change locations or get rid of the things around you that trigger your memories. If not that, then give it some more time now that you realize that your ex isn't coming back.
2006-11-27 04:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Deana S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its cuz she left a hole in your heart, and it hasn't yet been filled. But you dont have to have another female to fill it, you might need to let yo self "grieve", like listen to sad songs and get it all out, then you'll get tired of cryin over her and realize that yes, she was yo first love, and you'll NEVER forget her, but you cant let her memory control you. But its good that your not with anyone else, you gotta close that door before you open the next one
2006-11-27 05:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by (¯`·._.·[•·.·´¯`·.·• Ariana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to see it this way... everything happens for a reason and maybe god has other plans for you. Be a happy sailor and live life with zest. There is no point in thinking about the past, cos it would only waste precious time.
2006-11-27 04:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over it. Hey...she was a tramp anyway my friend. You were too good for her to begin with. Plenty of other woman out there who'd die for a guy with your talents and looks. Screw that little bimbo anyway. Mark my words....she's made the wrong choice and will regret it for the rest of her life. She never knew what she had and she'll never have it now. Stupid bit*h.
There...feel better now?
2006-11-27 05:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait. Go after her. I almost lost the love of my life, but was not willing to let her go without letting her know how much I loved her. That is about the only thing to do if you are not willing to do other things or find someone else.
2006-11-27 05:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like you need a friend and you really need to go out and have fun just go anywhere the two of you went or what you two did together you will never forget her cause you loved her and you always will the love will never go away but it can be replaced by doing something you love doing that she did not let you do
2006-11-27 04:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by angie f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋