Help, Im on love with my best friend, and im scared as anything?

Question

I met this girl about 3 mothns ago. Not your traditional girl either. she's punky, and geeky. needless to say, we got along from the start. At 1st, she was really nothing but *another friend8, but as time went on i began to find my delf falling in love with her as we grew closer and closer. Our personalities match perfect, we spend all our free time together(we're in college, so that means everytime we're not working on homework or sleeping, we;re together), and everyone who sees us instantly thinks we're a couple. Only problem is...we're not. Normally, like with most girls, i would tell her how I feel...however, with her its different. Every guy she ever seems to meet instantly falls in love with her (shes the dream girl; she loves games, star wars, and roleplaying games) And I'm afriad that if i confess my feelings, it'd ruin our friendship (which i also love) and I'd become nothing more then another one of the 100 guys who've fallen for her in the past-what should i do?!?

I realize now that i DO need to come out about my feelings for her, but i got a problem with that. Guys she meets for a day confess thier everlasting love to her all the time(not that shes OMG HOT kinda girl, but rather the type of girl every guy who plays D&D, plays warcraft, watches Star Wars alot, or even listens to punk music instantly falls in love with because she enjoys things most guys do and few girls do; hell, she introduced me to Fight Club AND the Notebook) and im afriad that if i reveal in a mushy way it'd create tension between us. So, now it comes to finding a way to reveal my feelings in a way thats non-verbal, or at least not so straight forward... and yes, we do *flirt* alot, like tickling each other, pokinh each others bellies, wrestling, and she enjoys biting me alot... She is a very untraditional girl, and I fear anything traditional to reveal my feelings to her will be blown up......

Answer 1

Dear god, I've been there before. You have my sympathies - it's never a good situation to be in.

The first thing to wonder about is how she deals with the constant professions of love from those other guys. Does it offend her? Does she grumble about everybody falling head over heels for her? If so, you'll want to step carefully - last thing you want to do is to make the move, in her mind, into that category.

My recommendation, if you have a relationship where you can openly talk about things (feelings, thoughts, etc.) is to be upfront. Let her know you've got a crush on her. Don't make it out to be the end of the world, mind you. Let her know that you don't want this to change your friendship, and that you value the friendship more. Also, don't act any different, really, either - don't act all nervous and "wierd" around her either - act normally, which will be reassuring.

You've got an advantage, in that you started as a friend first, and moved towards "something more" after that. You might want to hold off telling her for a while longer - stress the word might - to get more "friendship time" under your belt, but that depends on the situation. You might want to even try a "test run" - start by getting her to talk about relationships, sort of "sound out" what her thoughts are on guys, etc - it might give you an opening, or, at least, a vague sense as to her response.

Good luck, though - she sounds like a wonderful lass.

Answer 2

I think if you tell her in a non-threatening way, then even if she does not feel the same back then you both can still be friends. I have had male friends that wanted more and I did not but it did not end our friendship. As long as you can handle being friends with her and not do anything to make her feel uncomfortable then she should be able to remain friends with you without in affecting anything. Also you have to be able to have enough self worth to know that even if she does not want you in that way she still cares about you and it does not make you any less important to her.
Do you flirt with her? How does she respond? Has she given you any signs that she would be interested in being more then friends?

Answer 3

I married my best friend, and I couldn't be happier. I remember her telling me she had feelings for me, and I knew I had feelings for her as well. It would have been very hard for us to remain "just friends". She is still my best friend, but also my lover. I say take a chance. Who knows? She might feel the same way. Even if she doesn't feel the same, it doesn't mean that she won't want to remain best friends with you.

Answer 4

I think that you should tell her. You don't want to look back and say " what if." You don't know what going to happen tomorrow, no one does. Live for today. You never know what will happen. I say you go for it. If nothing else, you have made a good friend. And good friends are hard to come by.

Answer 5

ok well you must be a little special due to you having a delf

you should tell her how your delf feels and show her your delf

bet she has never been with a delf

Answer 6

Express your feelings dear. Maybe she too is in love with you. You won't lose her hopefully. May you get her. Goodluck. Let me know what happened, ok dear, i'll be waiting.

Answer 7

if u r good frends then start of with something like"I don't want this to affect our friendship......" and tell her everything and tell her that if she doesn't like you more than a friend then u2 could still be as ur.

Answer 8

well i dont think you should hide the way you feel.sit her down and tell her. maybe she feels the same way about you!!!!!if you spend all the time togeather you must have somthin she likes!!!

Answer 9

Get drunk, try making your move. If she flips out then you can just blame it on being drunk. If she goes for it then you are golden.

Answer 10

u r his best friend u should be the one who should ask him out cos u know more about him dont worry :)