In my family we only buy gifts for the children in our family. My husband's family, on the other hand, draws names for gifts so that everyone gets something. I have never participated (putting my name in) in the past with this other than drawing a child's name from his side of the family for my stepson. Well, this year they threw my name in without asking me and now they expect me to buy a gift for another adult. I just absolutely don't want to do it. I feel like Christmas is for the kids and should stay that way. How do I tell his family I want my name taken out without being rude? How do I keep my husband form getting mad at me about this? Should I have to participate in this when I don't buy gifts for my family?
2006-11-27 04:27:49 · 19 answers · asked by Pren 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I should be forced into buying a gift when I never said I would participate? They never asked me if they could put my name in. Why would this year be any different from the others (when I didn't participate)?
2006-11-27 04:36:47 · update #1
I don't want any gifts for Christmas!!
2006-11-27 04:38:34 · update #2
I don't think Christmas has "died" for me. I think it is foolish to buy gifts that more than likely will not be appreciated. Who really needs another candle or a pair of pink house slippers? Why should I have to participate in something I never told them I would do and that is totally against what I believe in? The only gift I need is to see the children happy and being with my family and you can't wrap that up and put it in a box!
2006-11-27 04:44:56 · update #3
Instead of letting this suck the holiday spirit out of you, you could let any of the potential givers know that you don't want any gifts, let them know instead that you would like to have that "gift" be a donation to a battered woman's shelter or other charity.
Then let your "gift" to the family member be a donation to a charity.
This way you are playing along with the rules and doing a good turn or two along the way. Peace.
2006-11-27 04:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by tryingmypatience 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-10 21:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bah-humbug!! Come on get with the program. Why should your husbands family change their tradition to suit just you? If your husband goes along with your families tradition then you should honor his. It doesn't hurt to go to the dollar store, pick up a simple but suitable gift for an adult and wrap it. Let loose and enjoy the fun of giving and receiving. Just because you are an adult does not mean the spirit of Christmas dies out of you. If this were an office party where you worked, would you not buy an adult gift for an adult? I don't know if you work or not, this is just an example. Christmas is for young and old.
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2014-08-30 11:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOh, I agree that Christmas is for children, although I am not going to lie, I like getting gifts too. I would just do the gift exchange this year, and express you feelings next year that you do not want to be involved. I doubt your family would care because they respect your feelings. I would just go along with it this year, even though what happened was not right. I wouldn't want to start anything w/anyone when there is so much going on.
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2016-04-29 19:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get out of it is to talk to either A, The person in the family that you have the best relationship with or B, The person in charge of the gift exchange. Thank them for the work that they have put in to the gift exchange and then tell them that for you Christmas is about the children and the best gift you can receive is seeing them happy and you are not going to participate in the adult gift exchange, but you will participate in the children's gift exchange.
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2006-11-27 06:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by K G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one gift, no big deal.
Perhaps you should think about his family and their traditions and their desire for you to be included in the gift giving/getting. They might think you rude and stand-offish if you don't participate.
As long as your two families don't get together at gift time there's no need to tell them you broke the rules and bought someone a gift.
Christmas is the time of giving. Buy the extra gift and recieve one from your in-laws with graciousness. You might find that you enjoy it.
Perhaps your husband finds your family's gift giving policy strange.
2006-11-27 04:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One families Christmas practices do not have to conform to another families Christmas practices. Leave your name in and be gracious about it. One side of my family does not exchange gifts, and the other side does. One side of my wife's family draws names, and the other side does not exchange gifts. We go along with whatever the majority want to do on each side. To do otherwise is prudish.
2006-11-27 04:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your family has their Christmas traditions and his family has theirs. Even though you believe that the gifts should only be for the children, I would think that it would be a good idea for you to participate in his traditions, as he does with yours. A little compromise goes a long way. Good luck.
2006-11-27 04:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋