I know I am going to get crucified for this, but here it goes. I just got married last October. My wife and I were best friends with her brother and his wife. I was together with her for 8 years and didn't get married for the best reason. My sister in law (brother in law's wife) felt the same way about her marriage. We started talking and connected and had an affair for several months. They found out and we are both going through divorces. We are madly in love and want to be together. I really feel like it will work out for everyone in the end. What do you think?
2006-11-27 04:27:07 · 19 answers · asked by nhresident2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now this is drama. Leaving this alone with her is better said than done, I know. If you absolutely must do this, keep it under wraps for a while and then each of you sit down seriously with the other parties and confess. Apologize, beg forgiveness. You never know, they could. If they don't, they cannot walk away with absolutely no respect, confessing will leave you with some.
On the other hand, if you have children. You have GOT to walk away at whatever cost.
2006-11-27 04:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at this point, both of you ruined a marriage, so the worst has been done. With that said, you should start "dating" as a normal couple. I have a strong feeling...this is just not going to work out and dating is going to be an eye opener for the both of you...affairs are driven by passion, not by the real thing...trust and love...once you start dating you will both see that you were seeking a release/relief from a marriage that was not working out for either of you, the cheating will probably haunt your relationship and doubts will creep in every now and then, if you think you are both strong enough to overcome it all then give it a try, it can't get any worse than it already has...at least this time around you can only hurt each other.
2006-11-27 05:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should walk away from the situation even if its temporary take a good long look at the facts you both cheated is this a factor that will happen again? Is the Love you two share deep enough when cheating arises between either of you to resolve it so you stay together?
Who is it suppos eto work out for in the end what about the "other spouses" do you think family get togethers will be smooth and not akward for them and parents?
Good Luck think it all through also if Children are involved think of what your teaching them by your actions...
2006-11-27 04:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by blueflyhorizon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts.
If she cheats on her husband to be with you, how long until she gets disenchanted with you and cheats on you?
Having and affair and being married are two entirely different things.
Having an affair means you don't have to figure out how to pay the bills, who gets up with the baby or any of a hundred other things husbands and wives deal with on a daily basis.
Maybe you didn't get married for the best of reasons.
But don't make the additional mistake of confusing the emotional high of an affair with a solid foundation to build a marriage.
Good marriages are built on trust. How can you trust someone who cheated on their spouse? You shouldn't trust someone who cheated on their spouse.
Is that clear?
2006-11-27 04:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it will work out for everyone in the end. I think you two could escape and be together, but who's to say that relationship won't die down and you both won't go meandering for another hot bed of passion elsewhere.
Sometimes, it' just the idea of forbidden fruit that drives us into passion- it's not love. But this is just what I see from where I stand and what you've said.
2006-11-27 04:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know that you should have both ended your relationships before you cheated on them, but since you didn't you suck.
that being said, if you two are madly in love and will marry for the right reasons, go for it. unfortunately you had to hurt two people who didn't deserve it in the process. just be careful with this new one. if someone cheats on their spouse for someone better, they will probably do it again.
2006-11-27 04:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cassian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You took the long road to happiness.
Now you both can pick on how weird your ex's family was and be total agreement.
Mind you I don't condone cheating, but since you both are going forward together I wish you luck.
2006-11-27 05:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you madly in love with? Your wife or your brother-in laws wife?
2006-11-27 06:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by La Chica Sexy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work out for 'everyone'? Sounds like a sordid mess to me. Its amazing how people embroil themselves in such stupid situations.
2006-11-27 04:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it what's the big deal you weren't woried about it before you two started fooling around.
2006-11-27 04:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by samantha007_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋