I've been with my fiance' for just about 2 years. In the beginning, she cheated on me twice, and then some other things happend with a couple other people that some would constitue as cheating. But I dont know. One of our good friends moved here from Fl. and she and I ended up taking innocent flirting, way too far. We ended up kissing and holding hands and talking about a relationship together; all the while I am still with my fiance'. My fiance' knows everything now, and I've been given the chance to make it up to her, but so far haven't put in that much effort. And I do love her, and Im in love with her; But the "what if's" and "maybe's" get the best of me more often than not. What do I do? I love my fiance', and I told her that part of me wants to work it out, but the other part doesn't. I don't want to break her heart... I love her - I just don't have any idea where to start with all this... Someone Help?
2006-11-27 04:08:16 · 6 answers · asked by llsoinlovell 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you're serious about starting over, then do it right: start over fresh. In my opinion, the only way to remove yourselves from these situations you've been in is to do simply that and start over fresh, that is, you both need to find a new place in a new town. You'll both share a communal experience and will only have each other to rely upon, which should, in theory, at least, strengthen your new relationship.
I would suggest couples counseling if not one-on-one as well. If both of you have been cheating on each other at different points, then you might have commitment issues.
2006-11-27 05:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by zea_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is one of the worst things you can do to your partner.
My ex boyfriend cheated on me and, but the circumstances were diffrent, he was away at college He was only 2 hours away and we saw each other frequently but I guess he wasnt dedicated. I know he loved me and the whole LDR worked for almost 3 years, but I couldnt handle the fact that he was knew and was in sound mind when he jumped into bed with the first bimbo that he saw.
Maybe you and your fiance need to take a break, dont make any decisions right now. Just give it a week or so. You have to decide who you want to be with, because if you dont 2 people could end up hurt.
2006-11-27 05:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by .:AMIZZLE:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are committed you don't 'innocently' flirt. You don't want to put in the effort with your partner?? Then get out of the relationship. I would not take the other relationship too far either--they knew you were in a relationship.... if they can break up a couple they will cheat on you too. Unless you beat them to it.... maybe you need to find yourself.... and someone is getting hurt now-- sounds like you are too.
2006-11-27 04:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Orpah! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a difficult thing to overcome between couples. The trust issue is paramount in any relationship as is communication. You cannot read each other's minds. I suggest sitting down and talking to her about your feelings. From what you said I assume that both of you are open minded and willing to work on your union. Keep in mind that loving someone is not all it takes for a relationship to work. Good luck!
2006-11-27 04:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by quickgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, make a new start.
Maybe you´ll come back together again in the future, but you obviously have to enjoy your freedom first, spread it about a bit (for want of a better fraze.)
When you are more settled and still want each other, then try again but first distance has to be put between you and her, to see how much you need each other.
If my fiancee cheated on me, I´d leave and never go back, but thats just me.
2006-11-27 04:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ganymede 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say leave her once a cheater alwayz gonna be a cheater, don't lie to yourself if your not truely happy with your realationship
2006-11-27 04:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by BOOTZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋