I recently went on my boyfriend computer and found some distubing things. I found transexual porn, which yes bothered me but not as much as the child porn. I am really disgusted I dont know if he accidently downloaded the child porn because he only had 2, but either way its disgusting and I dont know what to do. I have been with this person for 4 years and I love him very much but I dont know if I can be with him any longer. He has put me through a lot and finding the porn on his computer has just pushed me over the edge. What do I do?
2006-11-27 04:07:51 · 37 answers · asked by krista10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like its the time to cut the cord. I don't understand why you would want to stay with him if hes put you through so much. Obviously if he pushed you over the edge and your outta red bulls. No reason to fight to keep this relationship alive since the love has already died.
2006-11-30 06:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aint Nothin Wrong Wit Porn... But He Took That Ova Bored Something Is Wrong Wit Him If He Like Child Porn And Transexual Porn. Would U Really Want 2 Keep Dealing Wit That Un-Normal Nasty S**t. But Then Again 4yrs Is Along Time 2 Threw Away. But If I was U I Wouldn't Stay Because It's He's A Perv And I Dont Think Thats Samething U or Anyone Else Can Change So U Shouldn't Even Try
2006-11-27 05:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by 06ThugMissez06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-24 18:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, say you don't confront him and six months from now, you end up pregnant. You give birth to a beautiful little girl. That kiddie porn you found will ALWAYS be on your mind. ALWAYS! There is NO possible way that you will ever trust him again, right? Relationships are built on trust. If you can't trust your significant other, then the relationship is not healthy. Do not ever stay in an unhealthy relationship -- it chips away at YOUR character.
I dated a man a long time ago when I was a single mom (I have a daughter -- she was about 18 mos at the time). After 3 dates, I was curious about why he was divorced, as he spoke so highly of his ex-wife. He confessed to me that his ex-wife caught him having sex with his 12-year-old stepdaughter. I had him drop me off at my house right then and there. I told him that I was sorry that it had to be this way, but I could NEVER trust him. THE END.
Good luck, sweetie. I know you want to do the right thing, and you already know what that is. You will be doing him a favor by (hopefully) nipping this in the bud now.
2006-11-27 04:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Long entry just for some porn. But dont worry...unless as you said he's looking at kiddie porn. That's not cool. Know that most porn sites that say "teenagers" are not really teenagers. Just younger looking girls...or teens as in 18 or 19. True child porn is ilegal, and rightfully so. But some guys look at porn. I have a very good sex life (although I'm not in a seriouse relationship right now) but I will most likely always look at some good lesbian porn every now and then. You have nothing to worry about. I would never cheat on a girlfriend, and porn does not lead to cheating in most cases. It's all good.
2016-05-23 10:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience. My ex-step-dad, was busted by the FBI for child pornography. It doesnt matter if it's one picture. If he gets caught with it. He might as well kiss his butt good-bye. That I would most certainly call him out on. If it was an accident, then get it off there. If you think it was done on purpose, I would call the police, thats against the law to have that crap on your computer. Imagaine it was your child someone was exposing. Or, a family member. It really doesnt matter either way. As far as the other stuff, its not a big deal. I havent met a man yet who doesnt like porn in some form. Well I cant say all, but most. He may have had a lot more on there, if you really want to see what he is doing, do a disk clean up, and view the files on his pc. Oh, yeah and if he does try to clean his computer from the kiddie pron. He better hope he knows how to get it off there. Because My ex-step-dad thought he was safe and the FBI pulled up every picture that he had looked at. GL
2006-11-27 04:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well look a guy when he reaches a certain age they like porn add it is pretty normal i no you might be thinking that its awkward but its not the question you asked was pretty awkward well if you try to confront him he will only get disturbed and people leave this kind of stuff after an age well bye the way boys don't usually like child porn so if go to any other guy and open up his computer you might find porn in it just tell him that you saw porn on his computer he might get ashamed but don't talk to him about it for a long time either he will be disturbed or he will pull you into this kind of stuff. advise don't talk to a guy about porn for a long time cause then you will be interested in it too.
2006-11-27 04:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Salz H 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
everyone has porn somewhere,perhaps those 2 pics that are causing you so much grief were unintentionally downloaded (like a 100 random pics in a zip file) I'm sure they will be deleted once he discovers he has them.
next time (in a week maybe) you are on his computer,check if they are still there. if they are, check the file properties to see when they were last viewed.if they haven't been viewed since you last opened them.odds are he doesn't know he even has them.if they have been opened since you last looked at them then i would ASK him about them...
is he an artist or 3d animator? if yes then maybe it's for visual reference,finding nude photo references is not exactly easy to find for models in that age range
2006-11-27 04:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by XeRoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Do you have children that could be on the computer. I experienced this a month ago. My daughter was on the computer and she clicked on the flashing sight off of Disney which turned out to be porn. We tried closing all windows and they still kept popping up. When my husband came home he found all kinds of crap. It could have been an honest mistake but the only way you will know is if you talk to him about this. Good Luck
2006-11-27 04:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's troubling you and it's getting in the way of your relationship then definately confront. He may have a reason for it being there.. If not, then is he really the guy you thought he was? You also said that he had put you through a lot; i think you should talk to him. It might be tough but for a happy relationship there are just some things that need to be resolved.
2006-11-27 04:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by amelia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋