I am confused. She says that she has never come close to having an orgasim with me. But then she will tell me that I do satisfy her. I am not abusive, and I am willing to do ALL that is needed to help her reach the big "O", but she will NOT let me do certain things that she knows will bring her to that point. She can change her mind about her safisfaction on a weekly basis and I don't know what to believe.
2006-11-27 04:06:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife says the same thing sometimes. How do I handle it? I take her to a nice club and get her a little tipsy then I take her home and wake the neighbors. This works everytime. ( Understand what I mean by waking the neighbors?)
2006-11-27 04:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were those guys that say get over it and just deal with it I would check my self into a loony bin. I can understand the she has needs and they need to be respected. But for crying out loud you have needs too. And you are no less of a person than your wife is. There is no reason to cut sexual activity out just because you are in your 50's. Maybe she can't swing from the chandelier like she was able to 25 years ago but something is wrong I would make an appointment with your Dr and go talk to him alone if you have to and ask him for advice. Then based what on what he says make a decision on what steps to make after that. Talk to your wife in a loving manor and explain that you have needs that should be respected as well as her needs.
2016-05-23 10:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mans sex organ is his penis, a woman's is her brain. I had the same problem, I always thought it was hard for me to give her have the big "O" until someone else gave her one. Something is missing, there might be problems outside of the bedroom. Chances are, she has told you something and you either ignored it or didn't put weight to it. Are you helping out around the house? Are you telling her how incredibly beautiful she is? Are you making her feel like more than a lay? Sex is a pretty good litmus test for how the relationship is. That doesn't mean the less sex you have, the worse the relationship is...what it means is the attitudes around sex....like rejection or disinterest outside of normal libido.
2006-11-27 04:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure the sex life is the real issue? I think she may be having issues with other areas and the sex is just the symptom. If she is not letting you do what you know will take her to the big O, then she isn't really wanting you to do that for her. Is she masturbating? How often? What are her fantasies? Has she changed her personal habits? Does she watch porn? Is there a particular area of interest for her sexually?
They can be tough questions, but to get real answers, you have to ask real questions.
2006-11-27 04:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dadofthree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is always alot of truth in what we say the first time but sometimes we feel guilty if we make someone feel bad especially our loved ones. But that tells you that she really loves you and does not want to hurt your feelings so I suggest that you put her at ease by opening up with her and telling her to be honest that you want to satisfy her tell her what can you guys do together for you to please her.
2006-11-27 04:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say "she will NOT let me do certain things that she knows will bring her to that point"
do YOU know what she likes? ask her if she likes this or that while you're down there, softer/harder, faster/slower, etc.
sit down with her and ask her what you could do to seduce her perfectly, exactly the way she wants it, you may be surprised. if she'll tell you keep good notes!
she tells you you don't satisfy her cause she's disappointed she didn't enjoy it as much as she knows she could but later she tells you she's satisfied cause she still wants you to try. ask her what she wants, be specific with your questions and ask her to be specific with her answers. communication is key. good luck!
2006-11-27 04:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spice it up a little , if she is a stay at home woman come home from work when she is not expecting you and give her something different . ( in the shower , on the kitchen table ), and flowers never hurt . It is not always the sex but how it is persented .
2006-11-27 04:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by probester91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are always whining, what a nightmare!! I'll tell you what it is , women don't know what they want!!! There always thinking "something" else will make me happy and until they reach that point, they realize they were wrong. I just ignore my girl when she gets on my nerves. :)
Or i'll just go out and watch some football.
2006-11-27 04:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really she is afraid to let herself go and let you bring her to that point. Also she is not sure herself about what it is that she really wants..So be patient and just do what you do best and that is be a loving man..She will see later for herself that you are working on what she wants trust me!
2006-11-27 04:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just wants attention. i say you sit with her and have a serious talk. tell her you want to know exactly how she feels in order for you to feel worthy. you'll only feel better about your relationship with her if you know she's satisfied. maybe then she'll open up.
2006-11-27 04:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋