can i get my violent controlling boyfriend out of the house?

Question

I'm sick of being abused by my boyfriend, can I get him out of the house we share? I desperately need some advice on this.

Answer 1

There are a lot of answers that say call the cops, and by all means do so!!! Sometimes though they won't do a damn thing about it, he will probably become enraged and the abuse will get worse. If this is the case pack what you need and move out when he's gone somewhere. I know of a neighbor of mine that did just that. She moved form here to somewhere back east while her abusive hubby was at work.
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 2

You definitely need to help from someone that you can trust. Either a family member, friend, or a neighbor. If he's physically abusive you might even have to take help of police if it comes down to that.

Please don't try confronting him yourself when you are one-on-one with him. It can only aggravate things more. When you are with him in a place where he can't be abusive to you - a mall for instance - just tell him how you feel. And if things don't change or you aren't convinced that this behavior will continue, you have to seek help to get him out of your life.

Just don't be antagonistic. The trouble with abusive, controlling people is that they tend to only get worse when you confront them. So, make sure you have a clear plan of action after you've gotten him out of your life.

Please feel free to email me if you need to share specific thoughts or have a question.

Answer 3

First off next time he hits you call the police and go through with charging him with assault, next get a restraining order, next sell the house and move to a place he wouldn't think you'd go. Next live happily ever after with a nice guy in a different city or town.
God Bless and Good Luck the only way you are going to get out of this is to use law enforcement and the brains god gave you
and the courts.

Answer 4

Does anyone know about this abuse? I know a lot of people say restraining orders and police reports are just pieces of paper and they can't protect you but in the long run they can. For example, if he tries to harm you whether gravely or not and you are put in a position where you have to defend yourself with equal force, you have documented proof of what you have been through.

I would definately contact the police about this. They are trained to handle these matters and they will be there to protect you. Take pictures of bruises, wounds...anything that will document his behaviour.

I hope you can escape this.
Be strong, and good luck

Answer 5

would depend on what you are terming as abuse. If he is physically abusing you yes , all it would take is to call the police and he would have to leave, plus appear before aj udge. of course state laws vary from state to state. best thing to do is see perhaps an organiztion that deals with women beig abused or talk to a legal expert. I could tell you one thing from what the laws state where I live, but they may not apply where you live.
Seek some help from one of the above and gt yourself out of that situation. This is not good for you.

Answer 6

of course you can get him out! you may need to file a report with the police if you haven't done so already. Remember to take pictures or keep anything that could be considered evidence to help your claim. If you both own the house, I suggest seeing an attorney to get some advice on what to do. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

if your in the uk then id suggest you leaving the house as soon as its safe to do so.....you must get in touch with a womans refuge they will give you a place to stay very quickly or try social services they again will point you in the right direction.Then get in touch with the police and they should get a restraining order but without proof im not sure how much they can actually do.As for what happens once you leave the house again im not sure but you must leave asap a house is nothing compared to your safety.Good luck and things will get better if you leave i promise.Hug x

Answer 8

Poor YOU.dOMESTIC VIOLENCE goes on more than one might imagine.Firstly you need to speak to "Womens Refuge".Also the police need to be aware of the danger you are in..he could be arrested AND TAKEN AWAY..and then you bring an order agaist him that he is not to come near the house.There is never any excuse for this abuse,do notmlet him manipulate you with his mouth..often verbal abuse and manipulation leaves more permainat scars..speak to your relatives.Where do you live.I ma a27 yr old women with two children living down here on Dartmoor,my partner was abusive when he used to drink,until i locked him out one evening and the police picked him up.

Get out now..take your passport and any other forms of I.D.

Answer 9

As long as he is out side the door, you can call the police and when they arrive you must insist that you are in fear of you safety and will not alow him into the property. They willl escort him away and he will then have to obtain a court order before being able to enter the property again. anyone can do this to anyone else. Talk to your local citizens advice beureu

Answer 10

my mum went through the same thing and each time she called the police, she never pressed charges and they released him and came back, so call the police and make sure you press charges. all men who do that are scum and should be shot anyway. i hope your OK and i think your a really strong person to realise what he's like and want him out, most people in your situation aren't and stay with them because they think they will change but they don't, a leopard never changes its spots, but good on you girl!